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StephN · 04-07-2006, 12:08 PM

Dear Maria -
You have seemed 'together' in your posts up to now. Sometimes there is some little thing that just is the last straw and we lose our resolve and will to carry on.
You know they say you can pick your friends, but not your family. Well sometimes the family just has to back off, and you need to try to come to an understanding with them. The other posts here gave you some great advice, if you can get your family members to sit down together.

One thing I would do is try to deal with your daughters and hubby first - then move on to your mother (I assume she does not live under the same roof with you). Maybe the others will find a way to help you with your Mother. Does your husband or Mom go to the onc visits with you. Someone should. Or to a treatment session to see how other patients get along with caregivers or friends.
Most cancer clinics have pastors on staff. They can be VERY helpful.

"It's psychosomatic. You need a lobotomy. I'll get a saw."

-Calvin (Calvin & Hobbes)

04-07-2006, 12:08 PM	#6
StephN Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Misty woods of WA State Posts: 4,128	Meltdown Dear Maria - You have seemed 'together' in your posts up to now. Sometimes there is some little thing that just is the last straw and we lose our resolve and will to carry on. You know they say you can pick your friends, but not your family. Well sometimes the family just has to back off, and you need to try to come to an understanding with them. The other posts here gave you some great advice, if you can get your family members to sit down together. One thing I would do is try to deal with your daughters and hubby first - then move on to your mother (I assume she does not live under the same roof with you). Maybe the others will find a way to help you with your Mother. Does your husband or Mom go to the onc visits with you. Someone should. Or to a treatment session to see how other patients get along with caregivers or friends. Most cancer clinics have pastors on staff. They can be VERY helpful. "It's psychosomatic. You need a lobotomy. I'll get a saw." -Calvin (Calvin & Hobbes)