[mom22girlz]

I saw an oncologist on March 14 and I am just now able to write this. He was very statistics orientated. He will retire in 5 months. I am stage 1. I know this is fortunate. He said that he knew 5/5 oncologists would recommend chemo for my situation, but he would not because the number of women who lived after chemo was not statistically significant. If I wanted it, he would give it to me, but said with his experience, he thought someone of my age, 47 would have more time to reoccur anyway or would get a secondary cancer from the chemo. Also asked about herceptin and he was not real interested even though I am her2+++ Now, some of this bothered me, but at the end of our appt., he said, Your children should know you well enough to remember you..... It was like, if I die, don't worry because they'll remember you anyway. My husband was shocked, but didn't want to draw attention to the comment until I told him how it upset me and he totally agreed. We decided to find another oncologist no matter what. So now I am waiting again. I don't want to beg for chemo, but am wondering why he would say I don't need it and then say that my children will remember me if I die........ susan