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Lee · 03-22-2006, 10:29 AM

My older son, who is 7, is concerned about me and it breaks my heart that he worries. He's always asking if I took my vitamins, when is treatment going to be over, when is my hair going to come back. I got a cold last week and felt really crappy one night, and he asked me if I was going to get better, and when. My younger boys are almost 5 (they are twins) and seem to be just taking things in stride.

Honestly, I just try to put it out of my mind. I am NOT going to let cancer take me from my boys right now. I worked too damn hard to get them (my children all are the result of years of trying and fertility treatments) and, whether I'm deluding myself or not, I just refuse to believe that they are going to grow up without me. Having said that, though, I am also trying to make the most of every day. One of the lessons I'm trying to learn from having cancer is to try and enjoy life as much as possible because, really, none of us know how long we have on this earth.

I also know that, should the worst happen and I am taken from my boys at a young age, they will be OK. They will be sad, and they will miss me terribly, but they have a wonderful father and they also have grandparents, aunts & uncles, cousins, and friends who love them very much and will make sure they are well taken care of. My sister-in-law is a child psychologist so I know she will ensure their emotional needs are met as well.

I think you just have to try your best to think positive, fight hard, control what you can, and try not to think about what you can't. Easier said than done, I know!

03-22-2006, 10:29 AM	#8
Lee Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 58	I really just try to put it out of my mind. My older son, who is 7, is concerned about me and it breaks my heart that he worries. He's always asking if I took my vitamins, when is treatment going to be over, when is my hair going to come back. I got a cold last week and felt really crappy one night, and he asked me if I was going to get better, and when. My younger boys are almost 5 (they are twins) and seem to be just taking things in stride. Honestly, I just try to put it out of my mind. I am NOT going to let cancer take me from my boys right now. I worked too damn hard to get them (my children all are the result of years of trying and fertility treatments) and, whether I'm deluding myself or not, I just refuse to believe that they are going to grow up without me. Having said that, though, I am also trying to make the most of every day. One of the lessons I'm trying to learn from having cancer is to try and enjoy life as much as possible because, really, none of us know how long we have on this earth. I also know that, should the worst happen and I am taken from my boys at a young age, they will be OK. They will be sad, and they will miss me terribly, but they have a wonderful father and they also have grandparents, aunts & uncles, cousins, and friends who love them very much and will make sure they are well taken care of. My sister-in-law is a child psychologist so I know she will ensure their emotional needs are met as well. I think you just have to try your best to think positive, fight hard, control what you can, and try not to think about what you can't. Easier said than done, I know!