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how about a new oncologist. you should talk to someone else and see what their strategy is for your cancer. If you still don't like the answers you can then tell them that you are willing to to one round of chemo and check your standings, or you will do 2 rounds, say 4 of a/c and four of taxol and herceptin and then see how your scans show up. listen it;s your body and your choices. theses are reasonable request and you need to be in the same page as your onc or it will never work. I am somewhat in the same boat. I am stage 4, took four month of chemo. my cancer is still everywhere but much smaller, i told onc no more chemo, just herceptin. I may end up the poster child for less chemo, or i may end up progressing faster than i can think, but it was my choice not to do anymore chemo. we all have our own tolerences. but there are many , many ladies on this board who have flown through chemo at your stage and have been without disease for many many years. I can only tell you that i would give my right arm to only be a stage one. you have many options and all of them spell a long happy life. seems kind of unfair for you to want to throw in the towel when this is soooooo controlable and curable, being a stage one. please take treatments. do it for all of us who don't have a chance at cure. only at keeping the mets stable and from killing us. i know this is scary and the very word cancer can stop your heart. I'm not trying to minimize your fears or seriosness of your situation, but you can do so much. go see another doc, really talk to them. they will work with you and for you. God bless you. I hope you can get some good advice here from gals that have stood in your shoes before. there are a bunch of great stories, with life without cancer, after being a stage one. Speak up girls and let her know!!!!