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StephN · 02-03-2006, 12:18 PM

Hi Alice -
I have an affinity for that name - it's my middle name, my grandma's name and my niece's name.

To your post - I and everyone else here knows what you are talking about! When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was told it would take the better part of the next year for all the surgeries, treatments, etc.
I had NO idea how I would feel or if I would be able to do much of anything.
I knew that I would be seriously hampered and would just have to do what I could and take it a day at a time. A friend of mine told me that it was like a year of her life disappeared into a black hole and it seemed to take about FOUR more years to get on top of her life again.

For me things piled up and projects got left in mid-air. I actually felt better than I thought I would and did well with the radiation with almost no burning. But, it was a struggle to keep up with just the daily life, let alone what was left from BC (before cancer).

Just as I was through the winter holidays and company, etc., my cancer came back with a vengence. That was over 4 years ago. You can imagine that I have projects piled up all over the house, as I still work in my own business and help my hubby in another one.

I had to learn (as well as my husband and whoever else visits our home) that there are reasons for things being out or in piles. I am constantly sorting old files and have boxes of books and things that are always accumulating to go to the "good riddance."

Each day I do what I can and leave the rest. The most important tasks always rise to the top and those get handled. If there is laundry still to fold when I go to bed - it will wait for the next day. Fortunately I don't have kids at home to "do for" and I can see where this could get overwhelming.

If earning money is the priority now, then this is where your energy should focus. We have to learn to spend our precious life energy in the best way we can and not waste too much of it worrying about things we can't take care of. Remember there is only ONE of us and no one can expect more.
Keep your ears open for opportunities and maybe put out the word to some friends that you are looking for more income.

02-03-2006, 12:18 PM	#2
StephN Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Misty woods of WA State Posts: 4,128	Black hole in time Hi Alice - I have an affinity for that name - it's my middle name, my grandma's name and my niece's name. To your post - I and everyone else here knows what you are talking about! When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was told it would take the better part of the next year for all the surgeries, treatments, etc. I had NO idea how I would feel or if I would be able to do much of anything. I knew that I would be seriously hampered and would just have to do what I could and take it a day at a time. A friend of mine told me that it was like a year of her life disappeared into a black hole and it seemed to take about FOUR more years to get on top of her life again. For me things piled up and projects got left in mid-air. I actually felt better than I thought I would and did well with the radiation with almost no burning. But, it was a struggle to keep up with just the daily life, let alone what was left from BC (before cancer). Just as I was through the winter holidays and company, etc., my cancer came back with a vengence. That was over 4 years ago. You can imagine that I have projects piled up all over the house, as I still work in my own business and help my hubby in another one. I had to learn (as well as my husband and whoever else visits our home) that there are reasons for things being out or in piles. I am constantly sorting old files and have boxes of books and things that are always accumulating to go to the "good riddance." Each day I do what I can and leave the rest. The most important tasks always rise to the top and those get handled. If there is laundry still to fold when I go to bed - it will wait for the next day. Fortunately I don't have kids at home to "do for" and I can see where this could get overwhelming. If earning money is the priority now, then this is where your energy should focus. We have to learn to spend our precious life energy in the best way we can and not waste too much of it worrying about things we can't take care of. Remember there is only ONE of us and no one can expect more. Keep your ears open for opportunities and maybe put out the word to some friends that you are looking for more income.