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I was lurking through the board today, not because I am a breast cancer survivor, althought my mother is one of 14 years ! I think it was very sweet and kind of you to show up at your friend's door, the card apologizing was very nice too ! I wish I had a friend like you ! Five years ago my father died of esophagus cancer, 6 months before he passed my best friend got pregnant from a guy that was already an ex-boyfriend at that time. She was very upset because she didn't know wheter she should keep the baby or not, well, needless to say I had to much on my plate at that time and couldn't be there for her. I was also mad because here I was loosing my father, and there she was deciding wheter to keep a baby or not ! She was very upset with me and stoped talking to me, never once asked me how my father was doing, never even called me when he passed. Not only that she got mad at me, my other friends took her side and were mad at me also, they called me selfish, and other names like that. I just recently started talking to all of them again because like some of the ladies here, I learned to not sweat the small stuff, but never once they apologized to me, I guess its true when people say that you only understand once you or a loved one is in these shoes. You have been and continue to be a caring friend to her, you did everything you were suppose to do, its up to her now, I hope her pride doesn't get in the way of your friendshipt, but if it does, maybe its time you realize you need to cut people like that from your circle of friends. Right now its the time for you to be selfish. Hugs, Lucy