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StephN · 10-23-2005, 07:53 PM

Friends are like the walls of a house. Sometimes they hold you up, sometimes you lean on them. But sometimes, it's enough to know they're just standing by.

The above was sent to me by a friend who also is a cancer survivor. Survivors seem to understand each other better than others.
The fact that the "friend" is in a snit over an "estranged brother" and his problems makes it even harder to swallow. It is not your fault that she and her brother have a long-standing problem. And, by the same token, not your problem to fix for her. She herself seems incapable of dealing with her brother and you can't spend your precious energy trying to so this for her.
I think this is a case of misplaced blame and if she does not respond positively to your apology, it is beyond help. You have let her know that you are 'standing by.'

10-23-2005, 07:53 PM	#12
StephN Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Misty woods of WA State Posts: 4,128	Your precius energy Friends are like the walls of a house. Sometimes they hold you up, sometimes you lean on them. But sometimes, it's enough to know they're just standing by. The above was sent to me by a friend who also is a cancer survivor. Survivors seem to understand each other better than others. The fact that the "friend" is in a snit over an "estranged brother" and his problems makes it even harder to swallow. It is not your fault that she and her brother have a long-standing problem. And, by the same token, not your problem to fix for her. She herself seems incapable of dealing with her brother and you can't spend your precious energy trying to so this for her. I think this is a case of misplaced blame and if she does not respond positively to your apology, it is beyond help. You have let her know that you are 'standing by.'