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Hi, I can sympathise with you, I hadn't spoken to my parents on and off since I was 15, first time when I was pregnant at 15 they wanted me to have an abortion but it didn't happen and my son is 34 this year and a beautiful person with a brilliant career and family and they have always thought of him as just lovely but would never admit that they wanted rid of him, I did it all with out their help and I am 50 next month. They would have to drive past my place to see my sister and wouldn't even call in, and most of the problems have been caused by the rest of my family. Mum and Dad turned up at the hospital after I had surgery, I think it took that to make them realise that this wasn't some trivial family feud, I have said the same about them over the years that I didn't care but my dad passed away last year 84 and I still shed a tear, even after I found out about all the nasty things he did before he died but at the same time he was making my Essiac tea religiously for 5 years, trying to make ammends I think, but my mum....now 84 with nothing wrong with her at all stays with a brother who came to the hospital also before my surgery and I hadn't spoken to him for about 4 years but as it turned out he was having marital problems and just wanted to unload on me, like I needed anything else, so short story not speaking to him again he had dad's Will changed the week before he died and managed to get mum to sign her real estate over to him and they hadn't spoken for about 6 years before my dad got sick and mum has gone back to the way she was when we were kids and now I know why I don't remember much of my child hood because she had a nasty streak which is now coming out, so as family the old saying you can't choose them, so hopefully your hubby and son can ease your turmoil a bit. My friend's mother remarried and had another family, my friend is 53, and told her that she was no longer the natural daughter as she had another family and cut her out of her will, strangely enough what real estate she does have was bought by my friend and now her mother is dieing of cancer, don't know which way this relationship is going to sway either, but you are not on your own with family feuds, either it will happen or it won't, I think you will find that your mother is jealous of you and envious of the life you have had with her parents when she should be happy for you and get over herself, people tend to hang onto to much emotional baggage and they are the won's suffering and inflicting there misery onto others so don't let her win, Kharma always comes to mind.
Love & Hugs Lyn
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