[Cat]

It sounds like I am older than you and was almost due for menopause so tho I had hot flashes they weren't as bad. I do understand the other feelings and you are very normal. I have often thought to myself I should take up acting, I'm getting pretty good at it now. And I too have a "great shaped head"! Or so I've been told. I also get "you have pretty eyes". I think because they are the only thing that haven't been affected. All that I can say is I too meditate and try not to feel guilty about me time. I also tend to connect with my feel good people and avoid the people that tend to make ne feel drained or bad. The time on herceptin went fast for me and then I felt lost without the regular visits for awhile and it seemed a little scary to let go. Everything you feel is normal whether anyone else is feeling it or not. Allow the tears, allow the anger and try to continue to count your blessings. So many have gone through this and come out the other side. Don't be afraid to ask about the effexor dose either. Do what feels right for you and stay connected here and/or with friends and family. Sending you hugs, Cathy