[Becky]

And everyone reacts differently in your life but you do realize it is all out of fear. And the fear taints everyone differently. I will say, my husband was a gem and he has some inherent selfish tendencies. My one daughter who was so helpful prior to bc did nothing to help out (I think this was her psychologic reaction that if "I could do it, I must not be sick). My youngest who is "the youngest" and usually doesn't do anything started cleaning and doing the dishes. Later, my middle one who usually helped said, "I developed a throw away camera I found in my dresser. It was when you had cancer. (This camera was developed 3-4 years after chemo etc). She said, "you know, I looked at those pictures and I didn't realize how sick you really were. You were gray. At the time, you didn't look sick at all to me". So, everyone has their own coping mechanisms and you can't get rid of your kids - ever but I would have gotten rid of that teenage girl at the time if it was legal. She was horrible to me but I think they just don't want to see someone they love so much and who is so important die. If she could have left, she would have because it pained her probably more than anyone so they make up excuses to turn away. But a more mature person pushes that aside, after all, everything does work out. And a 15 year old has the immaturity card to play that an adult does not.

We are mature here though. More than we want to be and will always be here for you.