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Old 01-18-2013, 08:24 PM   #6
roz123
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Re: When to tell the patient the truth

bejuce...im so sorry about your father. We have a similar situation happening in our family right now. A family member is also in the last stages of colon/spread to liver cancer. They have stopped all treatment yet he continues to ask when his next chemo will be. They have not told him that he can no longer tolerate chemo. The entire family (wife and kids) is in a complete state of denial...so much so that hospice should have been called much sooner as he is in a lot of pain . The doctors were also at fault because up to a few weeks ago they wanted to try another chemo even though his condition was worsening. I completely feel for them - they want to have hope, keep their father in state of hope yet they are not dealing with reality. I didn't offer any advice to them as it's not my place but I also wonder if they are taking away his chance to say his goodbyes, wishes etc...such a difficult situation
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