[karen z]

"He never remembers who I am when he sees me. He reads my chart in front of me, and always acts surprised to find out it is in my liver and I am stage IV".

What you are describing has NOT been my experience and I wouldn't be able to handle it. I would seek a second and third opinion and throw out a feeler to the board to see who knows of top notch doctors (with memories) in your area of the country. You do not need to put up with this.