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Jackie07 · 05-26-2012, 05:50 PM

Marie,

Since you've stated "I feel very well, and am quite healthy and fit, in fact much 'weller' than many other people I work with and know, so on the surface I look pretty normal...," there's no reason why you need to be (worried about) disclosing your health status.

Just be 'normal', be yourself, and have a good time! I was talking non-stop on the first date with my husband because I was upset over something/somebody and he looked/acted like a good listener. He didn't ask me out again until a couple of months later...

I believe it wasn't until we were going 'steady' before we shared our 'medical history'. None of what we knew/shared back then would predict I'd have a brain tumor surgery two years after our wedding; he'd have heart surgery in another 15 years; and I'd have GKRS for brain tumor recurrence plus two breast cancer surgeries/treatment before our 20th Anniversary...

Just like the stock broker's fine print - "Past performance does not guarantee future profit" - nobody can predict the future. So seize the day and enjoy what life has to offer!

05-26-2012, 05:50 PM	#7
Jackie07 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: "Love never fails." Posts: 5,809	Re: Dating when Stage IV Marie, Since you've stated "I feel very well, and am quite healthy and fit, in fact much 'weller' than many other people I work with and know, so on the surface I look pretty normal...," there's no reason why you need to be (worried about) disclosing your health status. Just be 'normal', be yourself, and have a good time! I was talking non-stop on the first date with my husband because I was upset over something/somebody and he looked/acted like a good listener. He didn't ask me out again until a couple of months later... I believe it wasn't until we were going 'steady' before we shared our 'medical history'. None of what we knew/shared back then would predict I'd have a brain tumor surgery two years after our wedding; he'd have heart surgery in another 15 years; and I'd have GKRS for brain tumor recurrence plus two breast cancer surgeries/treatment before our 20th Anniversary... Just like the stock broker's fine print - "Past performance does not guarantee future profit" - nobody can predict the future. So seize the day and enjoy what life has to offer! __________________ Jackie07 http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2011/06/doctors-letter-patient-newly-diagnosed-cancer.html http://www.asco.org/ASCOv2/MultiMedi...=114&trackID=2 NICU 4.4 LB Erythema Nodosum 85 Life-long Central Neurocytoma 4x5x6.5 cm 23 hrs 62090 semi-coma 10 d PT OT ST 30 d 3 Infertility tmts 99 > 3 u. fibroids > Pills CN 3 GKRS 52301 IDC 1.2 cm Her2 +++ ER 5% R. Lmptmy SLNB+1 71703 6 FEC 33 R Tamoxifen Recc IIB 2.5 cm Bi-L Mast 61407 2/9 nds PET 6 TCH Cellulitis - Lymphedema - compression sleeve & glove H w x 4 MUGA 51 D, J 49 M Diastasis recti Tamoxifen B. scan Irrtbl bowel 1'09 Colonoscopy 313 BRCA1 V1247I hptc hemangioma Vertigo GI - > yogurt hysterectomy/oophorectomy 011410 Exemestane 25 mg tab 102912 ~ 101016 stopped due to r. hip/l.thigh pain after long walk DEXA 1/13 1-2016 lesions in liver largest 9mm & 1.3 cm onco. says not cancer. 3-11 Appendectomy - visually O.K., a lot of puss. Final path result - not cancer. Start Vitamin D3 and Calcium supplement （600mg x2) 10-10 Stopped Exemestane due to r. hip/l.thigh pain OKed by Onco 11-08-2016 7-23-2018 9 mm groundglass nodule within the right lower lobe with indolent behavior. Due to possible adenocarcinoma, Recommend annual surveilence. 7-10-2019 CT to check lung nodule. 1-10-2020 8mm stable nodule on R Lung, two 6mm new ones on L Lung, a possible lymph node involvement in inter fissule. "I WANT TO BE AN OUTRAGEOUS OLD WOMAN WHO NEVER GETS CALLED AN OLD LADY. I WANT TO GET SHARP EDGED & EARTH COLORED, TILL I FADE AWAY FROM PURE JOY." Irene from Tampa Advocacy is a passion .. not a pastime - Joe Last edited by Jackie07; 05-26-2012 at 07:04 PM..