[sarah]

Hello Marcia,
Good post, this effects so many people. Ask your kids to help, ask friends to help.
There are some good answers here. you are obviously overwhelmed and depressed. Ask about anti-depressants and every evening when you come home take some time for yourself before plunging into family stuff, making dinner, etc.
Find a supportive friend you can talk to.
You must get to a point where you realize that although your life is tough, you have a wonderful family and you're alive and re-learn to appreciate the little things while this might seem trivial, it isn't. attitude is so important. learning to appreciate whatever you have in life is vital to happiness but you can't do that when you're depressed or feeling overwhelmed.
You are lucky to have a husband and children, so many cancer patients are totally alone. While they may sometimes create more work, I can assure you it's better than being alone.
take time for yourself. go to bed early and read or listen to audio books, nothing takes you away from the petty problems of life like a book. don't watch TV news, it's depressing.
It's hard to be ill and work but in this financial crisis, remember how lucky you are to have a job and obviously you're good at it.
talk honestly to your family about what you need from them and how you feel, they love you and will help.
What about seeing a psychologist?
Remember the most important thing, you're still here! Embrace each day, it really is a gift especially to us who have looked death in the face and are still here.
Take care, be gentle with yourself.
health and happiness
hugs and love
sarah