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Becky · 11-02-2011, 04:50 PM

Is there a safe place to walk around your office building - looping around the building a time or two - just for 15 minutes or so. A mental break for you and then eat at your desk. Maybe an office friend can join you and you can at least complain together.

I don't have little kids anymore (25, 22 and 20) but I remember those days of doing exactly what you're doing and its nuts but necessary. And I didn't have cancer until they were 18, 15 and 13! When my kids were littler, I limited how many activities they did - one sport each for example. I wouldn't allow music, sports, dance etc. And the kids really don't want to be ultra busy either. Also, I cooked alot on the weekend. A double meal of 2 things Saturday and Sunday - then I had things to heat up when they had games etc. It doesn't take that much extra effort to make a double meatloaf and a big pot of soup on a Saturday or Sunday. There are also sites online where they give you ideas of making a huge chicken or 2 chickens and the first night you have roasted chicken and the second night you have chicken tacos etc. It takes little preplanning but you get the hang of it as the weeks go by. Can't help the working - OMG, I can never keep up - it just keeps coming and coming and coming but I am like you and need to work. At least I like it. So, don't let your kids be super kids (they don't want to just as much as you can't be supermom), and plan those meals. The house can be somewhat let go. Even small children can do small tasks. Little kids can't "clean their room" but you can tell them to put the books in the book shelf and to pick up the clothes on the floor and put it in the hamper - one small task at a time. Even so, can you spring for "Merry Maids" to come every other week? Just a thought. I hope I haven't overstepped my bounds but I know exactly what you're going through. It is a tough time of life and then you had cancer too but this too will pass and you will miss this time (my 25 yr old daughter is engaged and getting married May 26, 2012 - I still remember her first day of kindergarten and don't know where that time went). Hugs to you

11-02-2011, 04:50 PM	#6
Becky Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Stockton, NJ Posts: 4,179	Re: Recipe for disaster?? Is there a safe place to walk around your office building - looping around the building a time or two - just for 15 minutes or so. A mental break for you and then eat at your desk. Maybe an office friend can join you and you can at least complain together. I don't have little kids anymore (25, 22 and 20) but I remember those days of doing exactly what you're doing and its nuts but necessary. And I didn't have cancer until they were 18, 15 and 13! When my kids were littler, I limited how many activities they did - one sport each for example. I wouldn't allow music, sports, dance etc. And the kids really don't want to be ultra busy either. Also, I cooked alot on the weekend. A double meal of 2 things Saturday and Sunday - then I had things to heat up when they had games etc. It doesn't take that much extra effort to make a double meatloaf and a big pot of soup on a Saturday or Sunday. There are also sites online where they give you ideas of making a huge chicken or 2 chickens and the first night you have roasted chicken and the second night you have chicken tacos etc. It takes little preplanning but you get the hang of it as the weeks go by. Can't help the working - OMG, I can never keep up - it just keeps coming and coming and coming but I am like you and need to work. At least I like it. So, don't let your kids be super kids (they don't want to just as much as you can't be supermom), and plan those meals. The house can be somewhat let go. Even small children can do small tasks. Little kids can't "clean their room" but you can tell them to put the books in the book shelf and to pick up the clothes on the floor and put it in the hamper - one small task at a time. Even so, can you spring for "Merry Maids" to come every other week? Just a thought. I hope I haven't overstepped my bounds but I know exactly what you're going through. It is a tough time of life and then you had cancer too but this too will pass and you will miss this time (my 25 yr old daughter is engaged and getting married May 26, 2012 - I still remember her first day of kindergarten and don't know where that time went). Hugs to you __________________ Kind regards Becky Found lump via BSE Diagnosed 8/04 at age 45 1.9cm tumor, ER+PR-, Her2 3+(rt side) 2 micromets to sentinel node Stage 2A left 3mm DCIS - low grade ER+PR+Her2 neg lumpectomies 9/7/04 4DD AC followed by 4 DD taxol Used Leukine instead of Neulasta 35 rads on right side only 4/05 started Tamoxifen Started Herceptin 4 months after last Taxol due to trial results and 2005 ASCO meeting & recommendations Oophorectomy 8/05 Started Arimidex 9/05 Finished Herceptin (16 months) 9/06 Arimidex Only Prolia every 6 months for osteopenia NED 18 years! Said Christopher Robin to Pooh: "You must remember this: You're braver than you believe and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think"