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Lori R · 08-10-2010, 05:30 AM

Adriana,
I am soooo reluctant to suggest that you reschedule, but it does seem like events outside of your control could make the trip more anxiety provoking than relaxing.

I agree with Catherine and Bonnie...this has to be a RESCHEDULE, and you should reschedule immediately or the vacation is at risk of never happening.

Is there a chance that the people that should be supportive actually don't want you to go? Sometimes we fall into the role of carrying the load and when we want to put it down, those around us aren't pleased.

I think it was Bonnie that suggested you inform the team that next time you WILL go. If you start to get signals that they won't be there for you again, find someone else.

I am so sorry for this potential disappointment.

Hey....we can put on some party tunes, our party hats and have a good time here!!!

Follow your instincts.....Lori

08-10-2010, 05:30 AM	#4
Lori R Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Evergreen, Colorado Posts: 454	Re: Should I go or stay? Adriana, I am soooo reluctant to suggest that you reschedule, but it does seem like events outside of your control could make the trip more anxiety provoking than relaxing. I agree with Catherine and Bonnie...this has to be a RESCHEDULE, and you should reschedule immediately or the vacation is at risk of never happening. Is there a chance that the people that should be supportive actually don't want you to go? Sometimes we fall into the role of carrying the load and when we want to put it down, those around us aren't pleased. I think it was Bonnie that suggested you inform the team that next time you WILL go. If you start to get signals that they won't be there for you again, find someone else. I am so sorry for this potential disappointment. Hey....we can put on some party tunes, our party hats and have a good time here!!! Follow your instincts.....Lori __________________ 2007 Oct - Diagnosed - Stage IV 5 c.m. IDC - Left Side er/pr- Her2+++ Node + 2/14 - Single Liver Met Double Mastectomy Nov - Begin T+H 2008 Feb-Complete 6 cycles- T&H- NED March - Continue - Herceptin Only April - Rads for 6 weeks 2009 Continue Herceptin - Continue NED April - Recurrance- 3 cm. Liver Met May - Cryosurgery June - November - Abraxane + Herceptin Aug - PET/CT - CTC = 0 Back to NED 2010 January - Continue NED July - Recurrance - 3 cm Liver Met CTC=1 August - Cryosurgery #2 August - November Navelbine November - Back to NED - End Navelbine 2011 Feb - Recur - 4 cm Liver Met - Same Left Lobe March Surgery it is -Couldn't get a clean margin July - Confirmed continued liver involvement August - Begin Herceptin + Tykerb October - Mixed results from H+T Add Abraxane + H + T - Nov - April 2012 January PET Scan - It's working!! April - Back to NED July - Recurrance August - Begin TDM-1 Trial (Taxol + TDM-1)