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Please read Ginger's Story:
http://her2support.org/community/mem...8-ginger-empey
Ginger is still alive and doing well in Bakersfield, CA.
My wife was originally diagnosed in 1990, was treated, but had a recurrence in 1999 that included brain mets.
She was treated with Herceptin and radiation and is now
cancer free 11 years later.
If you don't mind traveling, I would suggest Dr. John Link or Dr. Waisman in Orange County.
http://www.breastlink.com/centers.htm They are both great oncologists.
Warmest regards to both you and your wife.
Joe