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Lien · 07-03-2009, 01:58 PM

I think you hit the nail on the head here, Jackie! We all perceive things differently, because we have stored information in our brains linked to different experiences. E.g. If you were in a car crash while the Beatles were playing Yesterday on the radio, you will associate that music with something bad. If they were playing the same song when your boyfriend asked you to marry him, it's a different story.

I often tell my clients: there are many truths and something can be true for you, when it isn't for me. If we stop looking for the truth or for someone we can blame for our unpleasant feelings and start having respect for each others' intentions, life becomes a lot easier for many of us. But that's an art many never master. It's even harder when you've been through the wringer because of cancer.

Over the years I've learnt that judging others based on limited information is a bad idea.

But when we hurt and someone hits the sore spot, we can't think clearly and we either flee or fight.

Jacqueline

07-03-2009, 01:58 PM	#9
Lien Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Haarlem, the Netherlands Posts: 835	I think you hit the nail on the head here, Jackie! We all perceive things differently, because we have stored information in our brains linked to different experiences. E.g. If you were in a car crash while the Beatles were playing Yesterday on the radio, you will associate that music with something bad. If they were playing the same song when your boyfriend asked you to marry him, it's a different story. I often tell my clients: there are many truths and something can be true for you, when it isn't for me. If we stop looking for the truth or for someone we can blame for our unpleasant feelings and start having respect for each others' intentions, life becomes a lot easier for many of us. But that's an art many never master. It's even harder when you've been through the wringer because of cancer. Over the years I've learnt that judging others based on limited information is a bad idea. But when we hurt and someone hits the sore spot, we can't think clearly and we either flee or fight. Jacqueline __________________ Diagnosed age 44, January 2004, 0.7 cm IDC & DCIS. Stage 1, grade 3, ER/PR pos. HER2 pos. clear margins, no nodes. SNB. 35 rads. On Zoladex and Armidex since Dec. 2004. Stopped Zoladex/Arimidex sept 2009 Still taking mistletoe shots (CAM therapy) Doing fine.