[Pam P]

Abby - I really am trying to understand your position, but I'm sorry I don't. You've talked a lot about what doesn't work for you: the mind/body connection language, 'I'll pray for you' comments etc. as not being "honest reality' (my words not yours), I get that doesn't connect with you as real or helpful. That's fine and I'm glad you can express that doesn't work for you. But I don't know what would be meaningful and helpful for you that you'd like to see discussed in its stead. Help me understand. As others have said, I think the intent is for this to be an open forum where everyone and their opinions are accepted and honored - and we are able to share our realities and truths without being criticized - different paths. I'm sure you are not alone in your beliefs regarding these things nor is Andi in hers. And how many hundreds of us are on this site (Joe? I have no idea!) No two of us are alike. As another has said, take what is helpful here, ignore what isn't.

"I'll pray for you" does sound like a lame inept thing to say at times when the news is bad bad bad and terrifying and we well know the facts. I could say something blunt like "your not going to beat those odds" but the person already knows the score her/himself - & I - or any of us don't know what the future will hold anyway, so all I can do is pray.

I didn't watch the Farah story you mentioned, but I'm curious - I'll see if I can find it on the internet.

Andi - I admire your positive spirit and stories of inspiration.

Peace and acceptance to all here. Pam