[Jackie07]

There are more boys born than girls. But 'men' are prone to having accidents and don't live as long as 'women'. So, starting a certain age (50?), there are more women than men.

One of our Her-2support members is happily dating right now. And I remember how it felt before I finally got married at 28.

I was too tall for most of my fellow countryman - so I (unconsciously) came overseas. I was having too much education for many available 'bachelors' around town - so I (unknowingly) dated a young(-looking) man who were two diplomas behind (since then he had caught up one, but the next one has been interrupted by my illnesses.) Everyone thought he was a doctor since we live in a big medical town and he looked 'brilliant'. But he is not.

We've had so many up-and-downs - we would have been able to save enough for retirement since there's no child-care expenses. But we seldom worked full-time jobs at the same time because of all the medical procedures - besides my four major surgeries, he had had 2 stents put in his heart in 2002.

Both of my two (older) sisters have been married for over 25 years. Both of them met their husband through blind dates - so were my parents (60+ years of marriage) and my In-laws (58 years before my Mother-in-law passed away). And I always thought I met my hubby through a blind date arranged by God (we met in church).

I think getting the words out - that you are ready to seek companionship - is the first step. And you've done it. But the only bachelor we've got - Bill - has been snatched away already. So let's hope the words would spread out through more circles.

Keep in mind one of the most popular slogans these days - 'Yes, we can!'.