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harrie · 12-07-2008, 11:07 PM

Joy, in response to your consideration of living together, although I don't know the ages of your kids and the situation on how well everyone gets along, something tells me it might be wise to be very cautious of doing so, esp if he is in limbo of being there and letting go. If your kids are secure now with the present arrangements, I would just leave it as such for now.
This time of the year can be so stressful as it is, if possible, I would not recommend trying to make sigificant decisions about your lifestyle arrangements during this holiday season. It can be too high intensity of a time to make these kinds of decisions.
My only advice would be to try to relax and allow him to make whatever decisions he feels will be best and you focus in on what is best for you and your kids today. The amazing part of life is that life has an amazing way of working out for the best. I am a firm believer in that.
You received some great advice from many here. I just added my 2 cents worth and basically to let you know that I care.

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harrie Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Hilo, Hawaii Posts: 1,867	Joy, in response to your consideration of living together, although I don't know the ages of your kids and the situation on how well everyone gets along, something tells me it might be wise to be very cautious of doing so, esp if he is in limbo of being there and letting go. If your kids are secure now with the present arrangements, I would just leave it as such for now. This time of the year can be so stressful as it is, if possible, I would not recommend trying to make sigificant decisions about your lifestyle arrangements during this holiday season. It can be too high intensity of a time to make these kinds of decisions. My only advice would be to try to relax and allow him to make whatever decisions he feels will be best and you focus in on what is best for you and your kids today. The amazing part of life is that life has an amazing way of working out for the best. I am a firm believer in that. You received some great advice from many here. I just added my 2 cents worth and basically to let you know that I care. __________________ * MARYANNE * aka HARRIECANARIE 1993: right side DCIS, lumpectomy, rads 1999: left side DCIS, lumpectomy, rads, tamoxifen 2006: BRCA 2 positive Stage I, invasive DCIS (6mm x 5mm) Grade: intermediate sentinal node biopsy: neg HER2/neu amplified 4.7 ER+/PR+ TOPO II neg Oncotype dx 20 Bilat mastectomy with DIEP flap reconstruction oophorectomy 2007: 6 cycles TCH (taxotere, carboplatin, herceptin) finished 1 yr herceptin 05/07 Arimidex, stopped after almost 1 yr Femara Last edited by harrie; 12-07-2008 at 11:18 PM..