[CLTann]

Joy, It is a very complex and thorny situation. I will try my best to analyze the situation with a cool head. First of all, the fact that he already expressed a fear and concern in your relationship, it served a clear signal that there is a problem he couldnot resolve. To me, it means that he now has doubt about your future together. I would therefore candidly discuss this serious relationship with honesty and sincerity with him. How about suggesting a trial cooling off period and test whether your love to each other is stronger than you feel? A partner with cancer is always a cloud shielding the real image. He could not clearly speak out his fear lest you would easily misunderstand. By trying a cooling off period, you signal to him that it is entirely a free choice of his making wiether his love for you will conquor all these deep-rooted problems. As to your relationship with your own parents, I would suggest that parental love and concern are limitless and you need their help as much as they are willing to give. At this difficult period, you need them more than ever. Good luck and good test results.