Hi Joy~
I'm sorry I don't have any clever or helpful advice/input to offer, but I did want to send you a note of encouragement & a virtual <<<hug>>>
We definitely live the unusual challenge of living in the moment, yet still want/must be able to live & plan for the rest of our world. I'm just so happy that you've found someone to share your heart,and that inspite of your ~10yr bumpy relationship with this disease, you haven't let it prevent you from opening yourself up to love & companionship.
(I was dx'd @33 & have spent much of the past 6
1/2 in & out of treatment, not including the 7 surgeries in 2 years. My primary relationship has been with Cancer & in search of NED...I've had a really hard time with the prospect of inviting someone else into this complex, uncertain world& thus far share my life with any amazing family & family of friends and my dog-child
, which is pretty wonderful, but can be limiting and a little lonely at times).
You deserve to have someone love you unconditionally & share in your world, however complex, uncertain & scary. He has
chosen to walk this path with you & I feel quite certain that he'd rather maneuver the bumps
with you than walk his own more predictable path alone.
I'm sure you'll receive much more practicle, applicable advice from other friends here on this site, but I just wanted to send you a note of encouragement.
Keep the Faith~