Hi
I am so sorry you have to go through this. We are all here for you. I do want to recommend another board. The group is called FORCE (facing our risk of cancer empowered) and their site address is
www.facingourrisk.org
This site is an amazing group of women who are BRCA 1 or BRCA 2 positive. Many other women are on the site that are not positive but got "indeterminant" results on their tests or (like me) have alot of cancer in their family but tested negative for BRCA 1 or 2 (perhaps these families are positive for a gene not yet discovered).
This group is a great resource for propholactic masectomy with or without immediate reconstruction, delayed reconstruction and bilaterial spaphingo oophorectomy.
They also give great support during this initial discovery time as well as advice on how and when to get your daughter tested.
You can make it through this rough road. At least you know exactly what caused your cancer and that you can prevent it from happening again.
Big hug to you