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Well said, Joan! I think most people are well intentioned when they say things such as "stay positive" or "your positive attitude will help you beat this," etc. etc. They want to be encouraging and feel they have to say something, but they have no idea how such comments are received by someone with cancer. It puts more pressure on us to appear happy or actually be happy, which, in their opinion, will help us to stay well!
The fact is, that many "fighters" and "positive thinkers" have not been able to beat cancer. My dad is one of them. I know of no one who loved life more than he and people loved him in return. He lost his fight but it most definately was not due to his attitude.
Life is easier if you have more ups than downs, but it is not being happy or being sad that will make the difference of beating cancer or not.
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Blessings and Peace,
Barbara
DX Oct 02 @ age 52 Stage 2B Grade 3 Mastectomy
"at least" 4.5 cm IDC 1+node ER+61% /PR-
Assiciated Intraductual component with Comedo Necrosis
Her2+ FISH8.6 IHC 2+
5 1/2 CEF Arimidex
Celebrex 400mg daily for 13 months
Prophylactic mastectomy
Estradiol #: 13
PTEN positive, "late" Herceptin (26 months after chemo)
Oct 05: Actonel for osteopenia from Arimidex.
May 08: Replaced Actonel with Zometa . Taking every 6
months.
Accepting the gift of life, I give thanks for it and live it in fullness.
Last edited by Barbara2; 09-20-2008 at 08:51 PM..
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