[Lori R]

Carol,

I think that many of us are similar in that we are worriers. I share many of the concerns that Joan expressed about the future and all the what ifs.

A friend recommended a book suggested by Oprah..by Eckhart Tolle titled "The Power of Now". I think others on the site may have commented on this book in earlier threads.

The point of the book is to focus on NOW. Not the past, not the future.

I find that when I get depressed, it is because I am analyzing the past and all the things that I could have done differentlly that might have prevented this disease. Or....I am thinking about the future and all the things that can go wrong.

When focusing on this moment...sun shining, dauther at the breakfast table. I rejoice and am happy.

OHHHH..my sisters....we all know how hard this is to do. Sometimes it pulls me out of my mood. Sometimes it doesn't...but at least I am aware of what is happening. As Sherry said...at the moments when I can't shake it, I go to my bedroom and have a good cry. So far, I've been able to ultimately surface from that sad, sad place.

If it becomes too much to handle, please don't face this challenge alone. Seek help from as many sources as possible. It always surprises me the source of the comment that helps me snap out of it. (this site, a friend, family member, clerk at the store, Dr., child playing in the park...you get the idea)

From a fellow worrier....Lori