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Dear Sue, My heart aches for you! You are so young to be going through this. You have done a good thing by putting a thread on this website. There are so many caring and experienced people here who will be here for you and your mom. Two things come to my mind: Can you believe that your dad is telling it like it is? His words seem really harsh to me. Can you talk to your mom about this and tell her you really need to know the truth? If you could go with her to her oncologist you could get more information, and it would probably help your mom to have you there. I had mets to my spine (two vertebra) 18 years ago and I am still here, so you really need to find out more facts about what is going on. Your mom needs your love and empathy. SHe may have a lot of the same fears you do, and talking it over together can be so helpful. Even under the worst circumstances, your mom can have help from hospice. Their main consideration is to help people, both the patient and the family, and they do all they can to alieviate pain for the patient and help the family to know what is going on and what to do for the person. Please
keep in touch here and let us know how we can help. Hugs, Tricia
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