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Chelee · 04-20-2008, 12:21 AM

Sherry, My heart goes out to you. I went through this eight months ago with my Mother. Passed away from advanced lung cancer. Towards the end it was very difficult to watch so I can only imagine how hard this is on you right now. (I am so sorry to hear your brothers onc seemed so cheery.) These onc's/doctors have to be detached at some level...but some times I say its a bit too much. My Mothers onc wasn't very warm either when giving her the news. He was darned right cruel. Your post really hit home with me...I just can't stress how sorry I am to hear your dealing with all this right now.

Your post brings tears to my eyes because I know how hard this is on you. Its just awful that your brother is having such terrible dreams...I know my Mother was having nightmares too. They terrified her. Sometimes I wonder if the pain meds they have to take make the dreams worse? Either way its just so difficult.

I just want to let you know how my heart breaks for you Sherry. But it is nice to hear your brother got some comfort out of knowing you all have plots together. He knows he will be with family that loves him and I'm sure that means alot to your brother. He's been so blessed to have such a terrific sister by his side. I'm just so very sorry you are having to go through all this. I will certainly be keeping your brother and the entire family in my thoughts and prayers.

Chelee

04-20-2008, 12:21 AM	#5
Chelee Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Southern, CA Posts: 2,511	Sherry, My heart goes out to you. I went through this eight months ago with my Mother. Passed away from advanced lung cancer. Towards the end it was very difficult to watch so I can only imagine how hard this is on you right now. (I am so sorry to hear your brothers onc seemed so cheery.) These onc's/doctors have to be detached at some level...but some times I say its a bit too much. My Mothers onc wasn't very warm either when giving her the news. He was darned right cruel. Your post really hit home with me...I just can't stress how sorry I am to hear your dealing with all this right now. Your post brings tears to my eyes because I know how hard this is on you. Its just awful that your brother is having such terrible dreams...I know my Mother was having nightmares too. They terrified her. Sometimes I wonder if the pain meds they have to take make the dreams worse? Either way its just so difficult. I just want to let you know how my heart breaks for you Sherry. But it is nice to hear your brother got some comfort out of knowing you all have plots together. He knows he will be with family that loves him and I'm sure that means alot to your brother. He's been so blessed to have such a terrific sister by his side. I'm just so very sorry you are having to go through all this. I will certainly be keeping your brother and the entire family in my thoughts and prayers. Chelee __________________ DX: 12-20-05 - Stage IIIA, Her2/Neu, 3+++,Er & Pr weakly positive, 5 of 16 pos nodes. Rt. MRM on 1-3-06 -- No Rads due to compromised lungs. Chemo started 2-7-06 -- TCH - - Finished 6-12-06 Finished yr of wkly herceptin 3-19-07 3-15-07 Lt side prophylactic simple mastectomy. -- Ooph 4-05-07 9-21-09 PET/CT "Recurrence" to Rt. axllia, Rt. femur, ilium. Possible Sacrum & liver? Now stage IV. 9-28-09 Loading dose of Herceptin & started Zometa 9-29-09 Power Port Placement 10-24-09 Mass 6.4 x 4.7 cm on Rt. femur head. 11-19-09 RT. Femur surgery - Rod placed 12-7-09 Navelbine added to Herceptin/Zometa. 3-23-10 Ten days of rads to RT femur. Completed. 4-05-10 Quit Navelbine--Herceptin/Zometa alone. 5-4-10 Appt. with Dr. Slamon to see what is next? Waiting on FISH results from femur biopsy. Results to FISH was unsuccessful--this happens less then 2% of the time. 7-7-10 Recurrence to RT axilla again. Back to UCLA for options.