I readily accept a "YOU GO GIRL"! (FYI, Bill et al). To me the phrase is full of comradery, approval and encouragement. What could be wrong with that?!However -- I don't think most females are keen on being called, or thought of, as dames, chicks and the like (since you've asked Billy, our man)...
On the other hand, being called "ma'am" roils me, making me feel more old than respected. Honey kind of makes me uncomfortable too, though I call a whole lot of pp honey (expressing warmth) and meaning no disrespect. I hug a lot too. That's just me. I'm a hugger. But, IMHO, men using such nomenclature toward us gals (
) are standing on the edge of a cliff. When a salesman or stranger calls me honey, I back away... Not you, Bill honey, though. We're family!
As an aside: Joseph Campbell writes that it would be wonderful if we each called one another THOU!! The act, he says, would make us think of one another with a reverence that has faded from our culture. This learned scholar and teacher believed that speaking to and of one another as a THOU would psychologically alter our perspectives and solidify relationships. Hmmmm... The idea always intrigued me. (From THE POWER OF MYTH.)
FYI -- I am off to New York for a week, so if y'all are wondering where I went to, please note. I am seeing docs but having a ball with family and dear old friends, on *vacation* (full of hugs and laughter and taking care of business). I expect all good reports and will touch base w/my beloved nut onc (nutritional oncologist). I'll be thinking of you all, and saying prayers for Michelle H., Kate, Lily and more I can't recall at the moment, but I will. Love you guys... Play nicely...
Andi