[BonnieR]

Liz, first of all, I love your photo! What are their names?
Anyway, I opted for the proph. mast from the beginning. When I was told the second breast was "suspicious" and I would need to have more biopsies, constant follow up, etc. I felt that I would be always be "waiting for the other shoe to drop". And did not want all the angst. My surgeon is usually more conservative but agreed that it was an acceptable choice. In addition, my case was presented to two different tumor boards and those gatherings agreed with the decision so I felt good about it. I have not regretted it. I am not having reconstruction but I am older, too, so that factored into the decision. I just didn't want further surgery.
If you are so inclined, you might say a prayer for guidance. The right answer will come to you. Keep the faith. And keep us posted.