[Becky]

It may seem like chance but it isn't. Remember that genetically, you are unique. Each of us is a snowflake. Because our DNA is unique to us, unfortunately, the way it mutates to become a cancer is also unique. Even though your pathology is just like many other women on this board, it isn't like it either. It is unique. Even if you had a twin sister who had the same cancer as you, it can also be affected by your environment (which is probably why some twin sisters don't get bc or get it very late in life while the other twin got it young).

Because of this uniqueness, perhaps Adriamycin, cytoxin, taxol or herceptin worked on something "positive" in your cancer that was unique to you and it worked. Or that you eat a certain way and it worked and your (imaginary) identical twin sister ate a different way and it didn't work (meaning synergy with a chemo).

Even the known lifestyle studies show that. Why do ER/PR neg women get a 44% reduction in recurrence just by walking about 5 hrs a week and ER/PR pos women only 20%. And in the negatives, why only 44% why not 95%? See what I mean?

There are women on this board who only started out with DCIS and went right to Stage 4. Why does that happen? Many say there was an invasive component but maybe not. Its just how we are. (For the record, this is just my thoughts on this, not some scientific thing I read). So, my motto is, go out and spread your uniqueness all around.

Take care of yourself. Take care of your body (after all, you have to live your whole long life in it). Beware of the toxins that might surround you. Eat well - foods are very powerful. Love yourself as you are loved (I can tell from your pictures of your husband and your one (of three) sons). And you are loved here. Because you are unique and perfect. Nobody can be Kelly as perfectly as you.