[Mary Jo]

Hi Susan,

I'm glad you got that off your chest and you most surely have a right to be upset. Not being taken seriously by your doctor is frustrating (to say the least) and to not receive some form of empathy from them is wrong. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying "pity" (I hate pity) but a doctor with a caring, feeling heart is the only kind I could see.

As you said, you've been through a lot and that should be appreciated by your doctor. You are human - with real concerns. Cancer is scary - the prognosis for any of us isn't written in stone - it truly is "wait and see" and that in itself makes it a somewhat hellish disease mostly all the time.

So, if it were me, I'd have to find a different onc. I couldn't stay with someone like that. That in itself would add stress to my life and that you or none of us need.

I know that's easy for me to say - and hard to do - but seeing as you will be seeing an onc. for many years you have to think of your best interest.

My first onc. was considered "the best" also. She treated me aggressively, answered all my questions - was thorough BUT caring wasn't in her nature. I didn't see that side too often - thankfully - she moved on - teaches now at Mayo - my new onc. is also considered "top notch" which is only what I'd want BUT he also is kind, caring, listens and treats me like a human being with real feelings and real fears.

Good luck to you and praying for Peace to overshadow you.

Love,

Mary Jo