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chrisy · 11-13-2007, 10:14 PM

Oh Rhonda, you're so right, people just don't have a clue about how the dumb things they say can affect someone! I've had some real doozy's from people who in fact really are good friends, but just say something incredibly stupid (my favorite being "Oh, I've been trying to put myself in your shoes....I always wanted to die before my husband, too"). Although I cried over that, I had to put those dumb things in perspective - I disregard what they actually say and just remember they are saying it out of love (no matter how "unhelpful" it is!).

And don't worry, a sad face isn't a sign of cancer. Neither is right side pain necessarily a sign of liver mets by the way. It's probably nothing - a pulled muscle or something. Of course you know the drill - get it checked out if it persists but in the meantime TRY not to worry.

hang in there
Chris

11-13-2007, 10:14 PM	#15
chrisy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Central Coast, CA Posts: 3,207	Oh Rhonda, you're so right, people just don't have a clue about how the dumb things they say can affect someone! I've had some real doozy's from people who in fact really are good friends, but just say something incredibly stupid (my favorite being "Oh, I've been trying to put myself in your shoes....I always wanted to die before my husband, too"). Although I cried over that, I had to put those dumb things in perspective - I disregard what they actually say and just remember they are saying it out of love (no matter how "unhelpful" it is!). And don't worry, a sad face isn't a sign of cancer. Neither is right side pain necessarily a sign of liver mets by the way. It's probably nothing - a pulled muscle or something. Of course you know the drill - get it checked out if it persists but in the meantime TRY not to worry. hang in there Chris __________________ Chris in Scotts Valley June 2002 extensive hi grade DCIS (pre-cancer-stage 0, clean sentinal node) Mastectomy/implant - no chemo, rads. "cured?" 9/2004 Diag: Stage IV extensive liver mets (!) ER/PR- Her2+++ 10/04-3/05 Weekly Taxol/Carboplatin/Herceptin , complete response! 04/05 - 4/07 Herception every 3 wks, Continue NED 04/07 - recurrence to liver - 2 spots, starting tykerb/avastin trial 06/07 8/07 10/07 Scans show stable, continue on Tykerb/Avastin 01/08 Progression in liver 02/08 Begin (TDM1) trial 08/08 NED! It's Working! Continue on TDM1 02/09 Continue NED 02/10 Continue NED. 5/10 9/10 Scans NED 10/10 Scans NED 12/10 Scans not clear....4/11 Scans suggest progression 6/11 progression confirmed in liver 07/11 - 11/11 Herceptin/Xeloda -not working:( 12/11 Begin MM302 Phase I trial - bust:( 03/12 3rd times the charm? AKT trial 5/12 Scan shows reduction! 7/12 More reduction!!!! 8/12 Whoops...progression...trying for Perjeta/Herceptin (plus some more nasty chemo!) 9/12 Start Perjeta/Herceptin, chemo on hold due to infection/wound in leg, added on cycle 2 &3 11/12 Poops! progression in liver, Stop Perjeta/Taxo/Herc 11/12 Navelbine/Herce[ptin - try for a 3 cycles, no go. 2/13 Gemzar/Carbo/Herceptin - no go. 3/13 TACE procedure