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chrisy · 11-12-2007, 04:10 PM

Dear Sherry, I really don't know how to respond. You've always spoken of your brother as such a good guy. It seems your brother does not want to intentionally hurt you and probably doesn't realize how this affects you - especially since he may think this was all "discussed" last year. It's important you let him know this. I agree, you need to share how you feel about this while you can. For both of you.

You've gotten a wide variety of responses on this thread - all based on people's very personal experiences with issues such as this. They are such tough issues - and it's so tragic that how the money is shared can so easily eclipse what is really important - which is how the love is shared.

Sherry, you've always been there for your brother, he knows this and expects this from you. He also knows that you will not turn away from him because of who YOU are. I can't begin to know how his thought process worked on this one (although I could make a lot of guesses). I think his slight is not deliberate - I don't think he set out to hurt you - but it is ill advised. Maybe he would want to understand how you feel.
Much love,
Chris

11-12-2007, 04:10 PM	#16
chrisy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Central Coast, CA Posts: 3,207	Dear Sherry, I really don't know how to respond. You've always spoken of your brother as such a good guy. It seems your brother does not want to intentionally hurt you and probably doesn't realize how this affects you - especially since he may think this was all "discussed" last year. It's important you let him know this. I agree, you need to share how you feel about this while you can. For both of you. You've gotten a wide variety of responses on this thread - all based on people's very personal experiences with issues such as this. They are such tough issues - and it's so tragic that how the money is shared can so easily eclipse what is really important - which is how the love is shared. Sherry, you've always been there for your brother, he knows this and expects this from you. He also knows that you will not turn away from him because of who YOU are. I can't begin to know how his thought process worked on this one (although I could make a lot of guesses). I think his slight is not deliberate - I don't think he set out to hurt you - but it is ill advised. Maybe he would want to understand how you feel. Much love, Chris __________________ Chris in Scotts Valley June 2002 extensive hi grade DCIS (pre-cancer-stage 0, clean sentinal node) Mastectomy/implant - no chemo, rads. "cured?" 9/2004 Diag: Stage IV extensive liver mets (!) ER/PR- Her2+++ 10/04-3/05 Weekly Taxol/Carboplatin/Herceptin , complete response! 04/05 - 4/07 Herception every 3 wks, Continue NED 04/07 - recurrence to liver - 2 spots, starting tykerb/avastin trial 06/07 8/07 10/07 Scans show stable, continue on Tykerb/Avastin 01/08 Progression in liver 02/08 Begin (TDM1) trial 08/08 NED! It's Working! Continue on TDM1 02/09 Continue NED 02/10 Continue NED. 5/10 9/10 Scans NED 10/10 Scans NED 12/10 Scans not clear....4/11 Scans suggest progression 6/11 progression confirmed in liver 07/11 - 11/11 Herceptin/Xeloda -not working:( 12/11 Begin MM302 Phase I trial - bust:( 03/12 3rd times the charm? AKT trial 5/12 Scan shows reduction! 7/12 More reduction!!!! 8/12 Whoops...progression...trying for Perjeta/Herceptin (plus some more nasty chemo!) 9/12 Start Perjeta/Herceptin, chemo on hold due to infection/wound in leg, added on cycle 2 &3 11/12 Poops! progression in liver, Stop Perjeta/Taxo/Herc 11/12 Navelbine/Herce[ptin - try for a 3 cycles, no go. 2/13 Gemzar/Carbo/Herceptin - no go. 3/13 TACE procedure