[Mary Jo]

Hi Cathy,

I had both breasts removed also. I opted out of reconstruction as I knew it wasn't for me. More surgery - the possibility of things not going well (which does happen to some) and just the "hassle" (at least that's what it all seemed like to me) was enough for me to know that it wasn't for me. However, it is a very personel decision, naturally, and a decision only you can make for the reasons that seem right to you.

Like Kate, I didn't wear my prosthesis at all for almost a whole year and felt just fine being a flat chested woman. Also, the bra's weren't comfortable to me (around where the strap goes) it actually hurt for sometime. One day however I wanted to "have breasts" under my clothes again and the bras felt better (probably a healing thing) so I started wearing the prosthesis and have been wearing them ever since. I feel completely "whole" and womanly just the way I am - whether with "breasts" or not.

One thing I really like is in winter - with sweatshirts or bulky clothing, if I opt for the "natural" look I feel good - comfortable and no sagging boobies. It's kind of fun. A no boob day - put them in the box - I want boobs today - take them out. The choice is yours.

Not trying to make "light" (no pun intended) of the situation - but for me personally, it's really an ok thing.

Good luck with all you are going through.

Mary Jo