That you and your hubby had a better day yesterday.
Sheila - I know exactly what you speak of and what you are feeling.
My sig. other and I just came through very similar situation. He became very distant with me, became depressed and we are currently going to a therapist to try to help us. The therapist mentioned that I am handling things better and I am the one with the cancer. As men do, they keep their feelings inside, unlike us women who can handle situations differently - Venus & Mars you know....
He has dealt with my illness for so many years and has been there for me but this life with cancer is like a yo-yo and I guess it started taking a toll on him. He feels he can not "save" me and is torn up with this thought.
I told him he did not "need" to save me, just be there for me. I guess with so much emphasis on my illness, I am sure that he felt tossed aside. He has never said this but I need to start considering him more. We are doing much better and I am incouraging him to "talk" to me more about his feelings. I was also going to check on finding him a support group for caregivers, which might help him to speak to others in the same situation.
Sheila - sorry for going on so long but I just wanted to share my story with you in hopes that you will feel a little bit better in knowing that you are not alone and that this WILL get better for you and your hubby. Just in what you both did yesterday, laughing, crying and talking TOGETHER is the road back for you both. To reconnect..... I am reading a book at the moment which talks about how different men are then women and how they perceive things in their lives. Boy, we have our work cut out for us.. lol
Email me any time you wish to just chat. I am very good at listening my friend.
Take care and hope thinks continue to get better for you both. AND IT WILL.