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Mary Jo · 08-27-2007, 06:03 AM

Hi Sheila,
I was happy to hear from you this morning and happy to hear you and your husband were able to reconnect this weekend and talk about all that's on your hearts.

Cancer is a tough disease in more ways than one. I always say the physical aspect of cancer is easy. It's the other stuff - emotional and psycological that is so damn tough. Look how it's affected all of us - for better and for worse - it's got to affect those we love and those who love us the exact same way. Maybe even more so. The thought of our loved ones "losing" us has to be awful. I always say, I'm glad it's me who had to go through this as I believe it is easier than watching my husband have to go through it - knowing there is nothing I can do to "take it away - and facing the prospect of "losing" him. Marie could better speak to that as that is the situation she is in.

Often times, 2 years out, I feel sorry for my husband too. He's been such a rock to me - always supportive and loving. Sometimes it's all I talk about is cancer. I mentor many women so it's a daily part of my life - OUR life - and I often think - "Oh this poor man............this surely isn't what he bargained for 29 years ago........" then again, did any of us???????????

Well, I'll stop rambling Sheila. Just wanted to say (QUITE A LONG VERSION) that I'm happy you and your husband had that time this weekend. I pray God's peace to settle around you both and for His compassion and love to occupy both your hearts.

Love to you dear "sister"

Mary Jo
Romans 8:28

08-27-2007, 06:03 AM	#33
Mary Jo Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Sheboygan, WI Posts: 2,582	Hi Sheila, I was happy to hear from you this morning and happy to hear you and your husband were able to reconnect this weekend and talk about all that's on your hearts. Cancer is a tough disease in more ways than one. I always say the physical aspect of cancer is easy. It's the other stuff - emotional and psycological that is so damn tough. Look how it's affected all of us - for better and for worse - it's got to affect those we love and those who love us the exact same way. Maybe even more so. The thought of our loved ones "losing" us has to be awful. I always say, I'm glad it's me who had to go through this as I believe it is easier than watching my husband have to go through it - knowing there is nothing I can do to "take it away - and facing the prospect of "losing" him. Marie could better speak to that as that is the situation she is in. Often times, 2 years out, I feel sorry for my husband too. He's been such a rock to me - always supportive and loving. Sometimes it's all I talk about is cancer. I mentor many women so it's a daily part of my life - OUR life - and I often think - "Oh this poor man............this surely isn't what he bargained for 29 years ago........" then again, did any of us??????????? Well, I'll stop rambling Sheila. Just wanted to say (QUITE A LONG VERSION) that I'm happy you and your husband had that time this weekend. I pray God's peace to settle around you both and for His compassion and love to occupy both your hearts. Love to you dear "sister" Mary Jo Romans 8:28 __________________ "Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10 Dx. 6/24/05 age 45 Right Breast IDC ER/PR. Neg., - Her2+++ RB Mast. - 7/28/05 - 4 cm. tumor Margins clear - 1 microscopic cell 1 sent. node No Vasucular Invasion 4 DD A/C - 4 DD Taxol & Herceptin 1 full year of Herceptin received every 3 weeks 28 rads prophylactic Mast. 3/2/06 17 Years NED <>< Romans 8:28