[Joy]

I, too, was surprised by you sad post as yours are always so upbeat-What are you, Human??????

You express yourself so well and I truly feel the pain you have. And I'm so sorry. I di lose my marriage, partly to cancer-it just made me see all the other problems differently. HOWEVER we did not have the years of foundation that you two have had.

I'm sure he is tired of this, aren't we all. And I think in a loving couple situation it is equally hard, just in different ways. We have to suck it all up and abuse our bodies to be rid of the cancer and try to remain hopeful during inscanity and those awful result visits. We have to look in the mirror and not recognize our own selves and, as womwn, we often are holding down the fort too!

But they are doing a lot of that as well. And I think we need to allow them time of pity (I allow myself that) and hope it doesn't linger, but leaves the system quickly. Maybe he needs to get away for his own sake. And I do so hope that you have some others to drive you, hug you, cook for you, pamper you. If I was there I'd do all of that in a heartbeat!!!

Marriage is work as it is and you throw this damn sdisease in the mix and it is HARD! Best of luck and so much love!