[Sherryg683]

I am so sorry that this disease has done this to your loving husband, I think your husband truely wants to prepare you if it does end up taking his life... I do want to say something....being stage IV, I have thought about the time when I may have to tell my family that it's nearing the end, I have told my husband that if this happens to me, I don't want him and the children to be miserable. . I want them to tell me they love me and will miss me but will go on with a happy life. It would only be then that I could go in peace. The though of me bringing awful pain and years of hurt on my family would just destroy any days I may have had left. I know that the ones left behind are the ones that will be hurt but I think it's also important that the one who is passing feels he can go in peace and love and not feel like he need to fight for just one more pain filled day to keep the loved ones from going crazy. That's too much of a burden. I plan on living a long time but when and if my time to go comes, I would like us all to be in bed together, my hubby, son and daughther, eating ice cream and telling stories. Then them telling me that they will miss me but will be fine, I would tell them I'll be watching over them and will see them in enternity one day. My best friend died of colon cancer , she had 2 teenage boys who were out of town when she went down hill. She said she couldn't die until she got to see and speak to her boys. She waited and waited till they both came home so that they could sit in her bed and talk. She died the next day, she had said what she needed to say to them and felt that she could then go to the Lord in peace. Maybe what your husband said is his way of peparing you for the worst, he probably wants the burden of hurting everyone he loves taken off shoulders, it's a heavy load. Dont' think he isn't thinking more about you all than himself. I just think there's a time when the caretakers, lovers, family have to say to the patient, it's OK to let go, or you don't have to fight anymore . We will never forget or stop loving you and we will be happy in our memories of you...sherryg