Vanessa,
Unfortunately, it appears that all he cares about is what HE WANTS.
I agree with the "don't engage" advice. Don't play his game of trying to make you feel guilty or responsible for your cancer dx and all that goes with it. When he starts--depart. Physically, mentally and emotionally. Worry about you. And when the time comes.....make sure you have a GOOD lawyer.
I hate that you are having to go thru this--any of this. Concentrate on the good things--like that new grandbaby!
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