[Mary Anne in TX]

And fur people don't "fall out of love" with you either!!! Our oldest son is alcoholic too and too hard headed to attend meetings. We spent a fortune on treatment 7 years ago and had such high hopes (guess I really still do...just can't give up on who I know he "really" is). Anyway, we have our granddaughter (7 1/2) now and are experiencing that "growing experience" of having older kids (31) & raising their kids. I think my diagnosis threw him into a tail spin and may have made things worse (he had a heck of a time when my mom died of PSP a few years before that), but it's still up to him to want sobriety badly enough! I've had no contact for 3 months and of course, have worried the "what ifs" we don't reconnect before something happens....to either of us! I'm just praying. But he's 31 and your daughter is still really a kid. I'd do whatever I could too. I see in my granddaughter the pain and goofy behavior of what she has been through and the instability of her life. She is finally talking to me about it a lot and it seems to help, but there is a long way to go. (Keep me alive God to do the work, please, or provide someone else better). Lu Ann, I'm believing and praying for you, but now I'm praying for that relationship too. I know how important it all is to you. You are a good person and mom and doing your best. Most of all you're one fantastic warrior! God bless you and your family....I'm believin'......ma