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Andrea Barnett Budin · 06-05-2007, 04:59 PM

Julie, RE-READ ANN'S POSTING! Brilliant analytical summary of both the problem and the solution. I second everything Ann wrote. So very sorry for your long sad tale. Ann honed in on the crux of the matter. I say go w/her advice. Focus on yourself, Sarah and your other children. You must forget about your husband and his problems. You must divorce yourself from them, quite literally, in every way imaginable. You have your own matters to attend to and musn't be dragged down by his craziness. Too bad for him. Right now -- it's all about YOU, Sarah and your kids finding health, love and as much peace as you can find! You can't get well if you're filled w/anger, resentment, blame, remorse and all that goes w/the death of a marriage. Somehow you must let that all go and let your love for your children and yourself take control of your life. With my prayers for your SURVIVAL in every sense of the word!!!! Andi

06-05-2007, 04:59 PM	#7
Andrea Barnett Budin Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: LAND OF YES! w/home in Boca Raton, Florida Orig from L.I., N.Y. Ever hovering IN THE NOW... Posts: 1,904	Ann's Post Julie, RE-READ ANN'S POSTING! Brilliant analytical summary of both the problem and the solution. I second everything Ann wrote. So very sorry for your long sad tale. Ann honed in on the crux of the matter. I say go w/her advice. Focus on yourself, Sarah and your other children. You must forget about your husband and his problems. You must divorce yourself from them, quite literally, in every way imaginable. You have your own matters to attend to and musn't be dragged down by his craziness. Too bad for him. Right now -- it's all about YOU, Sarah and your kids finding health, love and as much peace as you can find! You can't get well if you're filled w/anger, resentment, blame, remorse and all that goes w/the death of a marriage. Somehow you must let that all go and let your love for your children and yourself take control of your life. With my prayers for your SURVIVAL in every sense of the word!!!! Andi __________________ Andi BB '95 post-meno dx Invasive LOBULAR w/9cm tumor! YIKES + 2/21 nodes. Clear mammo 10 mnths earlier. Mastec/tram flap reconst/PORT/8 mnths chemo (4Adria/8CMF). Borderline ER/PR. Tamoxifen 2 yrs. Felt BLESSED. I could walk and talk, feed and bathe myself! I KNEW I would survive... '98 -- multiple mets to liver. HER2+ 80%. ER/PR- Raging, highly aggressive tumors spreading fast. New PORT. 9 mnths Taxotere Fought fire w/fire! Pronounced in cautious remission 5/99. Taxotere weekly for 6 wks, 2 wks off -- for 9 mnths. TALK ABOUT GRUELING! (I believe they've altered that protocol since those days -- sure hope so!!) + good old Vit H wkly for 1st 3 yrs, then triple dosage ev 3 wks for 7 yrs more... The "easy" chemo, right?! Not a walk in the park, but not a freight train coming at 'ya either... Added Herceptin Nov '98 (6 wks after FDA fast-tracked it for met bc). Stayed w/Vit H till July '08! Now I AM FREE! Humbly and eternally grateful for this life-saving drug! NED since '99 and planning on keeping it that way. To hell w/poor prognosis and nasty stats! STOPPED VIT H JULY '08...! REMAIN STABLE... Eternally grateful...Yes is a world & in this world of yes live (skillfully curled) all worlds ... (e e cummings) EVERY DAY I BEAT MY PREVIOUS RECORD FOR # OF CONSECUTIVE DAYS I'VE STAYED ALIVE. Smile KNOWING you too can be a miracle. Up to me and God now...