[chrisy]

Will you have normal days when you can enjoy your "life"?

Absolutely - even while you are getting chemo. You are still the same person, with the same interests and loves. Yeah, it can be a "hassle" to deal with cancer! But it does not need to stop your life. You may (or may not) want to slow down at some times but you can still do your life. I'd suggest being very kind and gentle with yourself and give yourself permission to rest and be mellow during this time.

After you're done with chemo, although it does take some time to recover physically, you can get back to a "normal" life.

Try not to freak about all the "side effects". Read the fine print enough to see that most people do NOT have serious problems - don't claim any before you start.

Like Adriana, I also had a recurrence, in 2004, to my liver. (That was before adjuvant Herceptin so you have a much better outlook). But, even with Stage IV, I still live a very full life - I work, travel, hike, party with my 10 yr old niece - and there are many days when I forget I am living with cancer. My life is richer now because I realize how precious it is and, well, how much I LOVE my life.

I can tell you love your life, too - and even now, there is no reason why you can't, or shouldn't spend time with your hubby doing what you love. In fact, it would probably be good for your healing (unless it's something like skydiving or sumo wrestling)

Take care
Chris