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sassy · 10-17-2006, 09:11 PM

Kelly,

I relate so closely to what you are expressing. To this day, I do not feel that I am or have been "sick", and have always found it surprising when someone refered to me that way. I feel that I have a disease that I am dealing with that has at times slowed me down or caused me to make adjustments in my life that will hopefully allow me to move back to a more normal and disease free life. As the saying goes," I have breast cancer, it does not have me."

I have tried to keep as much "normal" in our lives as possible, for my husband, children, myself, work, and friends; however, I also had to realize that I was not superwoman and it was OK to accept help and to even ask for help from friends and family who were more than willing to help in any way. I felt like I should be able to do it all--I had in the past, why should I let breast cancer change that? Accepting help and support is not an admission of weakness or a submission to breast cancer. Pick and choose what you want most to put your energy into. Then let those who are standing ready to help, but do not know what to do, know what you need from them.

There will be times that you will be low, but know that those times will pass and as you continue thru your treatment you will find your positive attitude pulling you thru. Talk with those who support you; talk with those on this board; talk with your medical team; talk with God. You are not alone.

Best wishes to you and know that you can always come here for support.
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10-17-2006, 09:11 PM	#13
sassy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Mountains of Virginia Posts: 2,267	Kelly, I relate so closely to what you are expressing. To this day, I do not feel that I am or have been "sick", and have always found it surprising when someone refered to me that way. I feel that I have a disease that I am dealing with that has at times slowed me down or caused me to make adjustments in my life that will hopefully allow me to move back to a more normal and disease free life. As the saying goes," I have breast cancer, it does not have me." I have tried to keep as much "normal" in our lives as possible, for my husband, children, myself, work, and friends; however, I also had to realize that I was not superwoman and it was OK to accept help and to even ask for help from friends and family who were more than willing to help in any way. I felt like I should be able to do it all--I had in the past, why should I let breast cancer change that? Accepting help and support is not an admission of weakness or a submission to breast cancer. Pick and choose what you want most to put your energy into. Then let those who are standing ready to help, but do not know what to do, know what you need from them. There will be times that you will be low, but know that those times will pass and as you continue thru your treatment you will find your positive attitude pulling you thru. Talk with those who support you; talk with those on this board; talk with your medical team; talk with God. You are not alone. Best wishes to you and know that you can always come here for support. ________ HOW TO USE VAPOR GENIE Last edited by sassy; 08-22-2011 at 08:56 AM..