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krisvell 05-08-2010 04:21 PM

Gave up my Wig for a short Messy Hair Style
 
Today was the first day since July '09 that I went out of the house without a wig or a hat. It's liberating and I feel like a new person!
Now, my next milestone will be going to work on Monday to hear all the comments. I can deal with that. Trying to think of a funny line to say. I've got another day come up with one.
Going thru cancer treatments is like school; there are many lessons and milestones along the way and when you're done, It feels really good.
One more surgery, two more herceptin treatments and I will be done with all the major stuff. I can't wait.
Kris....

v-ness 05-08-2010 04:36 PM

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hi kris. i hung up my wigs on march 21 even though my hair was extremely short (it's still only half an inch long now). it is a bit of a challenge but, like you said, liberating. people have complimented my hair a lot (i wonder what would have happened had they not liked it?) so at least there's that, but oddly enough i get sick of people saying "you should keep that hairstyle" when i have so many more ahead of me. also, don't they remember the long-haired person i was 8 months ago? she's still in me. i have phantom hair syndrome and often go to gather my non-existant hair into a ponytail. it's so strange! i hope people are nice to you and that you don't feel too awkward. i haven't left the house without big earrings since the day i got called Sir in the grocery store. :) valerie

Rich66 05-08-2010 05:46 PM

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Tell 'em short and messy is the new thing..."Haven't you heard?"

krisvell 05-09-2010 06:37 AM

Re: Gave up my Wig for a short Messy Hair Style
 
I'll make sure to wear earings so as not to be misktaken for a man (it's pretty short) and I like the'New style-thing' line for tomorrow.

Kris....

misquam42 05-09-2010 06:55 AM

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Kris,
That is so wonderful. You have "come a long way baby", as the saying goes.
Enjoy this sunny,breezy,CT day.
Pat

PatriceH 05-09-2010 09:31 AM

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Remember to enjoy this period of wash and go. In a few months on a windy day, you'll be SO happy for a wind-blown messy hair day. Relish each transition and the opportunities to try on "new yous".

vlcarr 05-09-2010 01:15 PM

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I can count the number of times on one hand that I've worn my wig. I just do not like them and I'm always hot anyway. I used to clip my hair up all day.

I've been going out more without even a hat these days. I have these 2 spots in the front that are still pretty bald.

Good for you Kris!!!

Cal-Gal 05-09-2010 01:20 PM

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Good Luck--I am sure you look great!!!!

chicagoetc 05-09-2010 02:01 PM

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Good for you Kris. My most favorite moment was dissing the wig in favor of a cap. The next was letting go of the cap. (Actually I hated the wig so much I only wore it to work.) Short hair is good!

Jean 05-09-2010 06:05 PM

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Kris,
This is a big step forward. I remember when I put my wig in it's case...my hair was really short little curls (I called them duck feathers).
It felt so good to be without that darn wig.

Put on your lipstick and earings, wear a big smile
and enjoy crossing the finish line of chemo!


Best wishes,
jean

alicem 05-09-2010 08:07 PM

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I'm loving your liberation Kris! Soon you won't even remember what it was like without hair.

Valerie, I also hated it when people commented on my 1/2 long hair and said I should keep it that way. UGH! I do think they were just trying to find something nice to say.

I was able to find a use for my wig. This picture was taken last week. The youth at our church put on a play written by a friend called "Is That You Agnes?" Our pastor surprised the entire cast when he showed up in this red dress and my wig! My hair, well this is almost one year's worth - without a haircut.

StephN 05-10-2010 12:22 PM

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My response when my hair was so very short, "This is the new long."

I loved that stage, and you will be happy to have no fuss hair this summer.

I let my grow out little by little, keeping it trimmed and permed, since there is not curl one in my tresses without it.

Alicem is looking GREAT - and your do is becomming. I let my balding brother-in-law have some fun with my red "fun" wig. The family got a big kick out of that!

Jackie07 05-10-2010 12:46 PM

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Kris,

Glad you are feeling good and thanks for the update. Be sure to inform us about your 'one more' surgery when the date is set.

Alice,

Your pastor look so much better than 'Mrs. Doubtfire'. Next time remind 'her' to shave... :)

krisvell 05-10-2010 05:14 PM

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Thanks everyone for the wonderful posts. I'm sitting her laughing and smiling. Alice -- I just love how you re-purposed your wig; very funny. I made it through work today with several comments that were all positive. Another milestone accomplished.
Kris...

WolverineFan 05-22-2010 01:12 PM

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Kris,

I am sorry that I am just now seeing your post. I so know the feeling! I didn't ever reallywear a wig, because it was just too hot and itchy. Plus, it just didn't look like me (not that bald looked like me either). Anyway, I went without my bandanas for the first time in late February and had so many mixed emotions. It one sense it was incredibly liberating, and in the other sense, I, like Alice, felt my body clenching when people told me how cute it was and I should leave it short. Are you kidding me??? I had my last Herceptin three weeks ago, and my hair is still only a little more than an inch long, but at least it is hair, and it is MY hair, and that is a good feeling!!

A big congrats to you as you hit this milestone and the upcoming milestone of finishing Herceptin! I hope you have plans to celebrate!!! We had a big party, complete with pink margaritas, and our family is headed for a week in Turks & Caicos on May 30th to yell a big, fat, good bye to this past year!

Congratulations!!

BonnieR 05-22-2010 02:15 PM

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Let's hear it for short and messy! I remember was at a party wearing a head covering and the other guests encouraged me to go without. Liberating is the word! As a bonus, I think most of us look quite cute with short hair.

krisvell 05-22-2010 03:38 PM

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Thanks for the good wishes.. I am really enjoying my own hair. I really like the idea of celebrating with Pink Margaritas.. My last Herceptin treatment is on June 22nd -- my son's 22nd birthday.. Maybe it's a sign!...

Hayley: Have a wonderful vacation with your family. It's like a New Years celebration.

Kris...


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