My father died last night
 

I posted several months ago about my father having mets to the liver and how they had removed a kidney...and almost all of the liver...It started out as colon cancer..I know this is a site for breast cancer, but I feel so helpless right now...so I apologize , if I should not be posting on the breast cancer site... well, he has been very sick , for weeks,....Chemo didn't work for him...
He was sent home by the Dr.from the hospital Monday night.. and hospice has been there since Tuesday.... I am very sad as I post this , because he was such a kind and gentle man.... He didn't have a mean bone in his body....
Please pray for us as we go through this difficult time....
This is a terrible disease that we are fighting.... I have tears in my eyes as I post this... I didn't think I had any tears left.... the funeral will be Tuesday.. the viewing will be Monday night...
By the way, the hospice nurses were wonderful to my father... I am thinking of volunteering after a while at the hospice office. they have been so kind to my father and family..The hospice nurse stayed over 10 hours with him yesterday.. would not leave his side....

Very tough loss
 

Dear Charlotte -
You and I have had a rough year with our fathers being so very ill. I lost mine on Nov. 5, so the ache in my heart is still quite fresh and painful.

Makes these end of the year holidays that much more difficult as the family dynamic changes and reforms itself. I could not do the usual Christmas card letter as there was such a focus on trying to get dad better for so many months that just about everything else fell by the wayside. Not the kind of thing to send out in a holiday note ...

Once you get through the next week, I think you will be feeling a great sense of relief that your father is no longer in a state of suffering. It will sink in, but takes a few days after the initial wave of relief.

Remember to take care of yourself as well.

Dear Charlotte,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I feel the pain in your post. My eyes are filled with tears for you. Please accept my sympathies and my prayers.

Hugs,
Lexi

Charlotte, please accept my most sincere condolences. May you find some comfort in your circle of friends and family. My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.

Charlotte, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I don't presume to speak for the site, but I am sure that you can come here anytime for help and support. Cancer is cancer, and these women here are among the strongest I've ever seen. Steph, I'm sorry for your loss as well. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Bill

Charlotte, my deepest sympathies for your loss. It's hard to see our parents suffer, and losing them is even harder. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

<3 Lolly

Charlotte,

I am sorry about the loss of your father. I am glad you felt you could share your saddness with us. Hospice is wonderful. We had hospice for my father, and even though he did not have cancer, he had a couple of years of pain. As things got worse, we had hospice for the last 6 months and they were wonderful to help make him comfortable.Hospice helped my dad and the rest of the family emotionally too. Please remember that hospice is available to you personally for an additional year. Their counseling and grieving support services are wonderful in our area. I hope the same for your area. Do stay in touch with them. Did they give you the booklet entitled something like...."gone from our sight." Your father sounded like a wonderful person. I am sure he appreciated your love and support.

All the best, Catherine

Love and blessings to you in your time of loss, Charlotte. If anyone understands your heartbreak at this time, it is this forum of people. Please keep well and know that your father felt (and still feels) every ounce of your love. I know you will miss him, but he will find ways to continue to send his kind and gentle love to you... and you will know it when it happens.

I am very sorry for your loss, and very glad you shared with us. May God give you strength in spirit during this rough time.

Charlotte, I am so very sorry to hear this news. Please except my deepest sympathy, I will keep you in my prayers.

Charlotte, I'm so sorry to hear of your father's death. How hard it must be to let him go. I'm so glad that you were blessed by hospice this week with the care that they gave your dad. They truly do know how to care. God bless you and your family during this difficult time. ma

Charlotte, Please accept my deepest sympathies in the loss of your father. It is never easy when we lose a parent. He will forever be an angel watching over you.

Charlotte,

Please accept my sincere sympathy on the loss of your father. I lost my father many years ago and I know the pain you feel. Just try and realize he is no longer in pain and is looking over you. I'm happy to know that Hospice was such a help. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Take care of yourself.

Dear Charlotte,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My dad died in 1991 from lung cancer and I remember how sad I felt. I will pray for you and your family.

Hugs,
Karen

Dear Charlotte,

I am so sorry and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear Charlotte,

Sorry for your loss. My darling father passed away in 1991 from a heart attack at age 59. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of him.

all the best
caya

Charlotte,

Losing a parent is so difficult. They are such a part of our foundation, that we are left feeling somewhat weakened by their passing. But our strength can be found in the life and love that they gave to us, and their spirit that will always remain a part of our lives.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

My heartfelt sympathies to you. I lost my dad in 2002-I think of him everyday. in time, your pain will ease. May God Bless. Ceesun

Dear Charlotte,

I am so sorry for your loss. It's been almost 30 years since I lost my Dad and I can still remember how much it hurt. Just know that I'm thinking of you and sending prayers for your strength and healing at this time.

Kim