Tabatha Is Terminal
 

Today I am posting to let you know that my precious niece Tabatha, 24 yrs old ,w/cerbral Palsy & stageIV breast cancer,has been given 2 months to live,she is the only child my sister Trina has,our family has to be strong for them,we are trying not to break down in front of them,we are all taking this so hard,we thought she was going for treatments,but now several lumps are coming up on her,and the onc says no trtmts,and that she is terminal,I am asking that all my her2 family to say a special prayer for her & for,God to comfort and sustain us,Just wish you could have known Tabatha,she is so sweet,and so hard to watch her fading away,Joanna J

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So sorry to hear this. of course you can count on me.
I will be hoping for a miracle for her, they do happen.
hugs and love
Sarah

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I am so sorry to hear about your niece. Hopefully she is not in too much pain.

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O Joanna, I am so sorry to hear that Tabatha won't be having treatments. Of course, she and your family will be in my prayers. I'll be praying for her comfort and for peace and strength for your family. Gentle hugs.

Barb A.

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Oh Joanna, I'm so very sorry to read this sad news and will keep you all in my prayers. x

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So sorry for the news. We'll be praying for Tabaths, Trina, and your family.

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Joanna,

So very sorry to read this news. I feel so helpless not being able to do anything except say that I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

janie

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Joanna, so sorry to read this news. I will be praying for Tabitha and your family. Mary L

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Joanna,
I am so sorry to hear the news. Tabitha has been in my prayers every day and wil continue.
Love and hugs to you and your family,
Kris....

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Joanna,
I'm so sorry to hear this news. I will be keeping Tabatha, and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Chelee

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What a terrible shock your family must feel. My prayers are with you and your niece. Loving hugs from those who know your pain. May God grant you some peace and comfort.

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I am so sorry. Ceesun

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Joanna,
I am so, so, sorry for your sister. While we all carry heavy burdens of doubt and fear, it is nothing compared to the loss of your child.

My heart breaks for you, your sister Trina and her family.

My prayer is that Tabitha feels surrounded by the warm love of her family and that you find peace during this difficult time of transition.

Love, Lori

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Thanks to the many of you that are praying! O' my Lord in Heaven how we wish for a miracle,this is killing me inside,my hope is fading,(Just can't quit crying,my heart is truly broken& my dear mother,Mary,is so so sad) I sat with Tabatha some today,Lumps are popping up on her...3 new ones...She can't hardly eat much & mostly vomits what she does,so sad to see! my older sister Jane is stage I BC & I am stage II BC and Tabatha is terminal,my God how much can 1 family take?Can this really be happening,mentally drained.

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I am so sorry Joanna. I send you a big hug and respect and my prayers for all of you at this terrible times.

Paty

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I too hope that Tabatha can feel the love surrounding her. Your family has already shown great endurance so I hope your faith can sustain you through this extremely difficult part of the journey.
Love Trish

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Joanna
I can feel your pain, and know how devastating this is on you and your family. My prayers for Tabitha that she is comforted and feels the love of everyone around her. She is too young to be robbed of life by this disease. Please know that she has many angels above from this site waiting to greet her.....full of love. May your faith sustain you at this difficult time.
Prayers and heartfelt love.

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I am so sorry to hear this. It makes me very sad.

Amelia

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My heart goes out to all of you. Pam

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This is heartbreaking. I am so sorry for all of you. Sending good vibes and may her passing be easy and peaceful. May you all find comfort in her loveliness. She is so young.

Love

Jacqueline

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Joanna, my heart breaks for you and your family, and for little Tabatha. I hope they're able to give her something that will ease her nausea and pain. I cannot imagine what Trina must be going through. You must all be numb. You're right, it's too much for one family. I will pray you find strength to offer each other. Sending love and prayers.

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My prayers are with Tabitha, you, and the rest of your family. May your faith and the love of family sustain you through this very difficult time.

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Joanna,
I am praying for all in your family for strength and of course for Tabatha. I am deeply sorry that you have to endure such heartbreak.

Warm Regards,
Jean

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Prayers for Tabatha and your family.

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It is an awful lot for one family to bare. When my brother was diagnosed with advanced melanoma one month before my stage IV diagnoses, we were all in shock. It was killing my mother,two of her children had been told the worse news possible back to back. My brother died 2 years later. He told me that he had prayed to God not to take us both, that it would kill mother. In a way I feel that might have been my brothers gift to me because I'm still here and NED. What treatments have they given your niece and why will they not try something else...sherry

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Sherry,Yes it is a lot for one family to bare,We are all hurting,I am trying to get my sister to take Tabatha to another Onc. (apparantly she has faith that the Dr. is correct) I can't keep from thinking that there is something else out there for her,she now has a couple of hard lumps,one on top of her head,the other on her back on side.she had two weeks of radiation on spine & sternum,I think the onc. maybe thinking since she is already compromised w/ (cerebral Palsy & stageIV)that it w/be too much for her????? I am frustrated,I do not have much say in the matter,I just know that I am not ready to give up on her yet,I truly hope there is a miracle,prayer is all we have,Thanks to everyone who commented,I appreciate any response,Joanna

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Hi Joanna,

I am so sorry this is happening to you and you must feel desperate, powerless to do something about it. How does she feel about the situation? Is she aware that she is dying? I remember that when my mother had esophagal cancer, she "knew" she was dying. The last days of her life, she needed us to accept that. She said it felt very lonely to be dying why everybody around her was trying to keep her alive.

I'm not saying you should give up, because I don't know enough about you and her. Just saying that sometimes we so desperately want to do something for a loved one, that we forget to ask what they need from us.

Only because my mother was aware of how she felt and because she was able to express her feelings, were we able to share her last few days with her and be at peace with her passing. It was very hard for us to go along with her wishes, because we so desperately wanted to try everything and anything to keep her alive. I am glad we let go in the end. It gave us closure too and she was happy to see that we had accepted what was happening. It gave us a chance to be with her with all our hearts until the last second of her life.

If you worry about the doc thinking that way, could you have a talk with him/her? Would that help you to ease your mind? Does your sister know how you feel?

This is really very, very hard. I hope you all find the strength you need to deal with this.

Jacqueline

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So sorry to hear this tragic news and of course you all have my prayers. I pray she doesn't suffer at all.