I am sorry to hear that your friends and family did not share your joy. I think it is hard for someone who has not faced a life threatening illness to understand what we feel.

Congratulations on your second anniversary, I am glad you proved those doctors wrong!

Hi Chelee,

Yes, I get it too. I guess only "we" can! "They" haven't experienced what we have and unless you have you don't understand. Also, yes, some people do say the dumbest things, don't they? Again, I guess it is their way of trying to fit into our world for that brief moment and saying that thing that will make it all right with us (ya right?) But, again, they don't get it and as I say to many people "you don't get it and I pray you never do!"

So from one who "gets it" to another...............HAPPY HAPPY 2 YEAR CANCERVERSARY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It IS a special day. The SPECIALIST (is that a wordhttp://her2support.org/vbulletin/images/icons/icon7.gif?)

Love to you and Chelee and may God's Peace surround you.

Mary Jo

The wonder and glory of this board is that there are others like you who do totally get it. This board was the only group of people would congradulated me on my five year anniversary. I announced it to my family, but they failed to acknowledge it at all. Having said that, congradulations to all on their cancer anniversary and know we here are fighters and survivors so live life to its fullest, knowing we worked to be here, unlike many in this world who just take life for granted. We truly know what it means to live and give.

Happy Cancerversary!!! And, I "get it" like evereyone else here. I could go on and on about how it hurts my feelings when people don't..."get it". And I say that because, even before cancer, I think I am the type of person who "gets it"!! I have had friends and family who have been hit with a major life crisis and I sent cards, made phone calls, cooked casseroles and on and on, yet these same people do not respond in kind. And quite frankly, I just don't understand!!! So, the Her2 SUPPORT Group is just what it says...SUPPORT!!! It has become my support system because we all care about each other and your milestone is my milestone!!!

Happy, Happy two years! Wishing you many more!

Dearest Chelee...
 

As you may remember, September 7, 2007 was Mighty Oak's 'One Year Cancerversary' and I planned a nice 4 day getaway in New Hampshire to celebrate the time we did not think we would have. I was so proud of him beating the prognosis' that were given to him in the beginning.

One of my friends, ahhhh...a breast cancer survivor herself.....could not grasp the fact that we were celebrating him getting cancer. Hello...not celebrating someone getting cancer Sweetie....celebrating LIFE!! After I thought about her noncompassionate comments I realized something. She could never come to this site or other sites, she does not want to learn about cancer because she is so afraid of it. She is not even in charge of her own treatment plans, she relies on the doctors judgement and I do not want to even tell you those horror stories. Her fears have kept her clueless. I was hurt at first because who better to understand than a breast cancer patient??? I now pray for her in a special way so she may conquer her fears so she may continue to conquer breast cancer!!

No Darling, not everyone understands but we do. I am going to take a moment tonight to rejoice in your news. Never let anyone rob you of the reasons you fight this fight!! You are a Hero in my book Chelee and you inspire us all here. Keep up the great fight and celebrate with all you have. My wishes for many many more years Dear friend!! Lots of Love and Prayers>>Believe51

PS: Jean let me know if you need more comments for the book, I have many here too!! ROTFL!! Love to you!

Chelee, Congrats on your cancer anniversary! I know exactly what your talking about. When I finished chemo it was a big deal to me. Everyone acted like so what. Tommorrow is my last herceptin treatment and again people act like its no big deal. It is a huge deal for me as I feel like I have been to hell and back this past year and I am finally coming to the surface again. I intend to celebrate big time even if no one joins me. The other question I hate is are you cured? How do you answer that one? Only those with cancer understand. I am so happy for you!!!

Hi Chelee, Happy Anniversary!!! Joan

Chelee,
You're right, other people don't get it at all! Even my hubby doesn't get it - he views it as commemorating the event of getting cancer - not the celebration of SURVIVING it!

This looks like a thread where I can take a moment to vent. I just came home from a party where a woman asked me if I had figured out yet what about my life had "caused" my cancer. She is a graduate of the Esalen Institute and feels she is totally in touch with her "inner self" and that I was more "aware", I would not have gotten cancer. She asked why the hospital was not teaching this. I told her they were too busy saving lives the conventional way.

I am certainly overwhelmed by all replies. :) I knew all of you would get *it*! After the way this year's cancerversary went I think I'll take after MicheleU and do like she did. lol Now she has the RIGHT idea. lol (Way to go Michele!)

I also had to laugh at Becky's post...that's so funny & yet so very true! lol You all have made me feel 100% better about the whole thing, and that's saying alot. Thanks so much for all the well wishes and kind words of support. I seriously can't thank you all enough. You guys made my day.

Chelee

Chelee,

Hooray for your cancerversary!!

I understand the "don't get it" factor. I don't know if I would have gotten it before all this happened. In a way, I am glad so many people don't know the pain and fear that we experience. As an example, great friends of ours live about 4 hours away and have young kids also. WHen I was diagnosed- they could not have been more supportive to me and my family. A year later the husband was diagnosed with colon cancer. They told me they were devastated for me when I was diagnosed and very sympathetic, but did not truly understand until it happened to them. He just celebrated his one year, and me my two year. We all met for dinner and what a powerful moment.

Next year throw yourself and Alive and Kickin' Party!!! We all should!