my beautiful wife update

[William B]

Hello Everyone
You are a very special group of people. Over the past year and three months
my wife and I were inspired by you. We read your post daily and prayed with
you and for you all. On April 24th 2011 my wife Carol lost her battle with breast
cancer. I will continue to read and pray for you all. I don't know if I made
all the right decisions,I have replayed the last 24 hours in my mind a again
and again and I still don't know
THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS AND YOUR WONDERFUL STORIES OF SURVIVAL.
MIKE F YOU AND BARB KEEP FIGHTING YOU ALL ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND MY PRAYERS
AGAIN THANK YOU

[radiant]

William:

I can't believe this. I have not followed this thread, but am SO sad to hear anyone would be taken this quickly. I can't imagine the shock you must be in.

I'm glad you felt safe enough to let us know what your truth is at this moment. There are other loving husband's that will surely also respond to this thread.

We are here for you.

Hugs,
Kim

[hutchibk]

Oh, William, how absolutely heartbreaking. I am glad you and Carol found this site as a source of inspiration and comfort, but my heart is just shattered for you. Please don't second guess yourself, there are so many decisions when it comes to cancer, and sometimes none of them are the right ones.

Please know you are in our hearts and in our prayers. If we can help you cope with the pain of the last year and a half of Carol's fight, please let us know. We're here for you.

Love, Brenda

[Trish]

Oh William, I am so sorry to hear about your wife Carol-it certainly can be a swift and unpredictable disease. It seems Carol was very lucky to have you through this ordeal and I'm sure you did everything in your power for her. Sometimes the disease can't be gainsaid despite our best efforts and the best medicine available. Thank you for thinking of us at this time. My very best wishes
Trish

[Jackie07]

We are so sorry for your loss.

[Hopeful]

William,

I am so sorry for your loss. The title of your threads speaks volumes about how dear Carol was to you. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Hopeful

[Mary L]

I am so sad for you and your family. You are in my prayers. Mary L

[KDR]

William
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear wife, Carol. We will forge on in her memory. May you find peace in the coming days.
Love
Karen

[ammebarb]

Oh William, I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you did all that you could do, and that Carol knew that. I pray for some solace for you as you cope with aftermath. You are in my prayers.

Barb A.

[Barbara2]

William, I am so so sorry. Want you to know that cyber hugs are being sent to you and all who loved your wife, Carol. Words cannot describe what you are feeling at this time, I know. Praying for you all...

[SoCalGal]

A harsh reminder that this is an incurable and unpredictable disease - no matter what decisions we try to make - it is ultimately out of "our" hands. I am so very sorry for your loss and I hope the memory of your love becomes a source of comfort for you as you catch your breath and face the days ahead. Sending prayers.

[adelay]

I'm so sorry to read this today, may God Bless you and your family in this difficult time, lots of prayers heading your way.

[sarah]

Dearest William,
My deepest sympathies. Your wife was taken so quickly. this is a horrible and difficult disease. You both made good decisions, do not second guess those choices.
I hope you are surrounded by caring family and friends to help you through this very sad time.
I am so sorry.
a big hug and love
sarah

[bejuce]

So sorry for your indescribable loss. May you have strength and love surrounding you. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.

[Lien]

Dear William,

I am so sorry your lovely Carol passed away, and so soon after diagnosis.
Please know that you made all the right decisions. We cannot look into the future, so we have to make do with what we know at a certain point in time. You decided what seemed best to you given the information you had. There is no more a human being can do.

Every day I make decisions for my children. Do I let them ride their bikes? Do I let them play outside when it's getting dark? Do I let them go to the movies with friends? To the pool? To the beach?

They have to learn to live their own lives, and I have to make the best choices I can. But one day, Heaven forbid, one of them may have an accident. And I will have allowed them to do something that got them to the place where it happened. Will the accident be my fault? No. I will have tried to do what was best for them, given the information I had.

I can tell from your words that you loved your wife very much. There is no way you could have saved her. This disease sometimes is unstoppable. But you have loved her. And that was probably the most important thing you could do for her. Nobody else could. Only you. And you did it.

Hugs

Jacqueline

[tricia keegan]

Dear William,

My heart too breaks for you, we can only make what decisions we feel are right and go forward, but there is no "Right" decision with this disease and no textbook to say how it should be done correctly.
I'm so very sorry you lost your wife so soon, life can be very unfair and this is one of those instance's, my sympathy and prayers are with you and I really am so sorry. ((((hugs))))

[krisvell]

Dear William;
I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of Carol so soon. You, Carol and family are in my prayers.
Please don't second quess your decisions. You made the right decisions with your Drs.

Love and Hugs,
Kris....

[Sandra in GA]

Dear William,
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. I am so very sorry that Carol is gone. It doesn't seem fair. I am sure you made every decision with her best interest at heart. Please do not blame yourself. As the others said, "you made the best decision you could at the time." Remember the good times and the love the two of you shared.
Sincerely,
Sandra

[Elizabethtx]

I understand the pain you must feel at this time. What a swift and sudden loss you are enduring. May you be granted peace and the knowledge that you did all that you could for your wife. I am sure you were a source of strength and comfort during her days. My prayers for your family...
Elizabeth

[Mary Jo]

Dear William,

I was so sorry to read of the loss of your wife, Carol. How sad you must be right now. Please know that there are never any right or wrongs in this cancer journey. Everyone is different and everyone responds differently to the treatments.

I'm very sorry and please know you did all you could.

Love,

Mary Jo

[Ceesun]

William, I send you my heartfelt sympathies as well. I recall what one of my first chemo nurses said...BC is a very unpredictable disease...I know that doesn't make it any easier at this most difficult time. Ceesun

[Jean]

William,
Reading your post serves to remind all of us that it is not only the patient who has cancer. Our loved ones are also hit with the disease. I am so deeply sorry to hear of your beautiful wife Carol losing her battle with this very difficult disease.

This is such sad news - but please realize that you did all you could. Treatment choices are difficult and there are no right or wrong answers...no one knows at this time what is the perfect choice. We are all making decisons on our beliefs at the time of current information.

These are dark days for you William and I pray that you are strengthen with the knowledge that you were a loving and supportive husband who did everything possible.

Sincerely,
Jean

[BonnieR]

My husband is a William too. What a pillar of strength and comfort he has been. As I know you were. What a blessing to have a caring husband at our side. Any decisions were made with love and the best intentions, based on the information available. Can't do more than that. Don't harbor regret. Keep the faith.God bless you and your family

[flynny]

William,

I am in complete shock! Cancer just doesn't make sense. I am so sorry for your loss and I am praying for you all. You did everything you could do. Never doubt yourself.

[mamacze]

William,
And what about her beautiful husband....you....yes YOU! You were her rock of support and clearly you have a heart of gold. Why in your time of despair, you had the presence of mind to log on and thank US!
William, you are selfless. And we are fortunate to be touched by you and your beautiful wife. Another angel has earned her wings. God speed to you as you try and pull the pieces of your life together when all around you feels like it has fallen apart. We would be honored if staying with us helps you at all. You are always a member of our community.
love Kim from CT

[Sheila]

William
So sorry to read your post about your wife. Please know that this is never a given path with certainty, we do what seems the best at the time and always hope for the best. Unfortunately, for all the drugs, treatments etc, the outcome for each of us is really not in our hands. Many say GOD ONLY TAKES THE BEST...guessing thats why he called your wife home. Please know we are here for you in anyway to help you again adjust to another new normal....cherish the memories and love, they will sustain you!

[Bill]

William, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Please don't beat yourself up for what you feel that you may, or may not have done, in Carol's final hours. I'm sure you did your best, with what you had to work with. Please don't be a stranger. Take care of yourself, brother.