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chicagoetc
07-13-2009, 08:05 AM
To all of you:

It has been two years since I was first diagnosed. It seems like a good time to reflect.

Positives:
I am alive. The entire experience has changed how I view life and priorities. Radiation made me tired bit was otherwise fairly easy. In spite of cognitive problems my brain MRI came back fine. I made friends along the way (e.g. Donna and Sheila). I was diagnosed recently enough that Herceptin was part of the treatment. Pre-chemo meds did not cause me to gain weight. In fact I lost weight. My doctors et al were great (except for my two favorite nurses who seemed more frustrated and/or less caring towards the end). My husband was a huge support through everything.

Negatives:
I hate chemo in general but I hate Taxol in particular. Some side effects to chemo seem semi-permanent (have not gotten better or worse over the past few months): Increased clumsiness. Some significant cognitive/attention/memory problems. Peripheral neuropathy (fingers). More discomfort walking longer distances, especially on concrete. Less hair on the top of my head. Some G.I. problems. Ongoing and unresolved nail problems, presumably from Taxol and Herceptin.

What I have learned so far:
From this website (I.e. you) I learned cancer is something to fight. It is being treated more and more as a chronic disease rather than a death sentence. I hated wigs but at work I hated the thought of baldness more. It is probably a good thing that I did not know how long my treatment/recovery would last or what it would entail. Sometimes facing into life is more challenging than facing death. The journey is not over...but hopefully some of the hardest times are behind me. The best advice anyone gave me was from my oncologist: walk thirty minutes at least five days a week.

Also:
Even though I did not post on this website that frequently I have visited almost daily and benefited from all of you. I cannot imagine having gotten this far without it. I love it that people on this website reflect all the various stages of cancer. There has been much to learn from everyone. And what a great way of not feeling alone...

So thank you (and thanks to God for this gift of life),
Melanie

Mary Anne in TX
07-13-2009, 09:07 AM
Thanks for sharing Melanie! Here's to many, many more years of life! ma

schoolteacher
07-13-2009, 09:37 AM
Melanie,

I am a couple of months behind you, so I am glad to hear that you are doing well. I also try to walk daily. Some of the women on this website gave me this advice, and walking seems to help my mental state also.

Amelia

Sheila
07-13-2009, 10:23 AM
Melanie
So glad to read your post....you have summed up many things eloquently...you are one of the gifts cancer has given me...cant wait to get together again!!!!!!

lkc Gumby
07-13-2009, 11:10 AM
Good to hear you're doing well. It is a journey

suzan w
07-13-2009, 11:42 AM
Congratulations Melanie on your 2 years!!!

Shobha
07-13-2009, 12:00 PM
Congratulations Melanie! May God bless you with a long healthy life!

I too have learnt so much from this site and all our friends here!

hugs,
shobha

Mary Jo
07-13-2009, 12:49 PM
Melanie....Thanks for sharing your heart with us and congratulations on your 2 year cancerversary! It truly is amazing how something so awful can produce so many wonderful blessings along the way. I guess God wasn't joking when he said "all things work together for good for those who love Him" was He? Even when it seems the worst......good can come and does.

So happy day to you dear friend.......enjoy each moment you are given.

Hugs to you...

Mary Jo

DonnaD
07-13-2009, 04:29 PM
Dear Melanie,
You have a special way of saying what is on your heart. I am honored by your friendship. If we didn't have cancer and didn't find this site we would have never met. Thank you Christine and Joe!

We all need to be reminded to focus on the positive, not the negitive. You did that so well in your post. Thank you.

Congrats on your 2 year celebration!
Hugs,
Donna

juanita
07-13-2009, 04:44 PM
Congratulations on 2 years!

'lizbeth
07-13-2009, 05:57 PM
Melanie,

That was a fantastic post. I agree this is a fabulous place to find others to learn from and commiserate with.

I'm totally with you on the bald/wig/cognitive/neuropathy stuff. I walked into Subway yesterday and wanted lettuce, tomato, cucumber, red onion & green pepper on my sandwich. I made it through lettuce & tomato okay, could not retrieve the word cucumber to save my life and called the onions "red peppers". The ladies next to me thought it was hysterical. I would have laughed too if I hadn't been practising the words so hard before I ordered. Sigh . . . I'm hoping this is all temporary and eventually I reconnect with all my stored vocabulary.

vickie h
07-13-2009, 06:53 PM
Congratulations, Melanie! Here's to many more years ahead, good health and wonderful friends.
Love and Hugs,
Vickie

Believe51
07-13-2009, 09:00 PM
Melanie, what a beautiful post, thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us. I am sharing in the joy that comes with this news of 2 years and sending prayers for many more. Congratulations Melanie!!>>Believe51

Chelee
07-13-2009, 11:45 PM
Melanie, Very nice post...thanks for sharing with us. Let me say congratulations on being 2 yrs out. Here's to so many more to come.

Chelee

SoCalGal
07-13-2009, 11:49 PM
Well said. Thanks for the post and congrats! Flori

chicagoetc
07-14-2009, 04:05 PM
Thank you!

Believe51
07-14-2009, 06:18 PM
Right back at 'cha kid!!>>Believe51

Bill
07-14-2009, 06:54 PM
Thank you, Melanie! What an awesome post.

Cannon
07-14-2009, 07:02 PM
Congratulations!

I am almost 3 years from diagnosis, and I'd like to let you know that I feel at least 50% better this year than last year. I did not expect that there would continue to be such improvement. I hope the same is true for you!

Rebecca